Perspectives on Partnership

9 years ago
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I fell in love with my partner before I was technically available.

I just read Docce's post about partnership, and falling in love with her husband before he was technically available. 

She is looking back on 6 years of marriage.

I am looking forward into year 2 of my relationship with the woman I will one day marry.

There were days in the last year, especially in the beginning, where I wasn't sure how I was going to get up the next morning. Where I cried in the bathroom at work.  Where I went to bed before the sun went down and struggled to get up in the morning.

It was the love of this woman, this amazing woman who I am so lucky to call my partner, that made it possible for me to take one breath after the other.

The beginning of us came on the heels of a very ugly end to an 8 year relationship (mine) and her moving across the country.  It took losing her to distance to make me realize how badly I needed her next to me.

She stood next to me through it all, she held my hand, she held me, and she made me know that we would make it through to the other side.

We have.

In two weeks, we celebrate one year together.  In two weeks, I turn 31.  This year of my life, that started off in such turmoil, has only the happiest of endings.  My family lives long lives.  I look forward to the next 70 years together (my family has a few 100+ folks), though I'm convinced that even that won't be enough time with her.


My every day, here's the stuff in my head, can be found at A Question of Perspective.