When It Comes To First Dates, Men Have A Lot To Learn

4 years ago
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Dear Men,

You may not know any of the following, so in an effort to give you all the information you need to understand the complex dynamics of a first date, I’m going to fill you in on a few things.

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Before a woman meets you for the first time on a your first date she has probably done the following:

  • Gone to the beauty salon for a haircut and possible color, spending around $100.00, maybe more

  • Gone shopping for a new outfit worthy of a first date with you, spending another $100.00 or more

  • Done her own toenails and fingernails, or she got them done.  If she got them done, that was another $50.00

  • Spent two or three hours getting ready for the date doing things ranging from shaving her legs to perfecting her hair and makeup

  • Has called her best friend for encouragement (because she’s nervous) and talked for another half and hour.  Her best friend has assured her that you’ll be a nice guy

You might think all this is silliness, but she did all of it for your first date.  Silly or not, she invested a lot of energy in making a nice first impression.   She spent potentially hundreds of dollars and several hours getting ready.   Knowing she’s put that kind of time and effort in, you could do the following:

  • Shower and make sure you smell nice

  • Wear something nicer than you would wear to a ballgame with your buddies  

  • Comb your hair

  • Show up on time, possibly with flowers

  • Be nice, to her and everyone else.  Hold doors for her, and pull out her chair.  You know how to do this stuff.  Do it!  

  • For the love of God and all things holy, when the check comes, don’t play games.   Pick it up immediately and pay the bill.

Why?? By default, because this woman agreed to go on a first date with you, she’s already put more effort into being there than you did into getting your first real job.

Men, if you want to have a successful first date that might lead to a second, put as much effort into the date as she put into getting ready for it.   It’s the gentlemanly thing to do. 


With love~

Lisa Hayes

The Love Whisperer


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