Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

6 years ago

If you read much of my blog, "24 In My Mind", you have probably seen the series I have been writing called “Once More With Feeling”.  It’s a story about a woman’s experience with her husband’s infidelity (another installment coming soon!)

Continuing on the theme of infidelity, I would like to request your participation in this week’s poll on the blog.  You’re probably familiar with the saying, “Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater”, which suggests that if a guy (or girl) cheats on their partner once, there is a very good chance they will do it again (with that same partner or with another partner in the future).  This philosophy tells me that there is some sort of cheating ‘gene’, personality type, character flaw, that makes a person a ‘cheater’ – or not. 

What do you think about that?  Is there such a thing as a one-time cheater?  Can a cheater be rehabilitated?  Or, do you believe the “Once a Cheater” philosophy? 

Maybe you’ve been a victim of infidelity and you have first-hand knowledge in the matter.  Maybe you’ve seen the scenario played out in someone you know (I think we’ve all known someone who’s been a victim of cheating).  Maybe you know someone that’s been a cheater.  And, let’s be honest, maybe you’ve been a cheater, so you can comment from that perspective.  We respect all opinions here.

What’s your take on “Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater”?  Take the poll.  Granted, there may be some ‘gray area’ based on certain circumstances, but overall --- which way do you tend to lean?  Please feel free to also post Comments here.  I’d love to hear from you and I think other readers would be interested, as well.  (The poll is anonymous, BTW.  And, if you want to send me a comment, but don't want it on the blog, send me an email).



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