Is This Lust A Must?

4 years ago
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 Most of us can relate to the butterflies in your stomach kind of excitement you feel when meeting someone new that you are attracted to.  This doesn’t happen with everyone you meet and you really can’t force this kind of immediate chemistry, it is either there or it isn’t.  This feeling is called lust.  Lust is an intense desire or craving and in this case it is sexual.  Your hormones react to the hormones in another person and you become turned on.   Sexual attraction however can build over time.  You may start off as friends but over time build a physical attraction towards one another.  How important is lust or sexual attraction when selecting a person to spend your life with?

 
Lust Couple

The answer is simple enough to deduce.  Think about 10 years down the road married or in a committed relationship with someone.  You have your work, kids, a mortgage, doctor’s appointments, carpool, health issues and many other responsibilities that you face each day.  If you are not attracted to the person you are with, where is the outlet for joy, desire and connecting with one another?  Yes you can talk, appreciate books or movies but then aren’t you just friends?

Lust Couple 2

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While we believe that it takes more than just lust to sustain a fully functioning relationship, having this element as part of your relationship will certainly help you through life’s rocky roads.  Being sexually attracted to your husband/wife certainly makes the “work” you put into the relationship that much more worth it.  Most people argue and have breakdowns in communication sometime during their marriage/relationship.  What keeps you connected to one another? Of course your kids and your commitment to staying married keeps you on board but in the end this is your life and you should live it happy and fulfilled.

When you are with someone for a long time the initial lust may subside but it can be replaced with a physical attraction that you have for one another.  You will still have to communicate effectively, respect one another and be the rock in which you each lean on.  Lust or attraction is just the frosting on the cake of marriage.  Our advice if you want to achieve this level of attraction with your spouse/partner is to make an effort.  Work out, put time into your appearance and most of all believe that you are a sexual god/goddess.  Have confidence in yourself and in the person you have chosen to be with and you will radiate an overall attractive energy that will permeate onto your spouse/partner.  Enjoy one another sexually and you will have an easier time trudging through life’s choppy waters.

Here’s to a memorable weekend

~ T2B

Featured image retrieved from www.my.opera.com

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