One of the questions most frequently asked of me is about whether or not my parents know what I do for a living. Please understand that the question is not an easy one to answer fully, because it is both "Yes" and "No".
My parents are fully aware that I am in the adult industry as a blogger, and they support my creative expression albeit with a healthy level of parental concern for any morality and "perversion" issues that may arise. What my parents do not know is that I'm also an adult escort (I have sex for money) and, to be quite honest, there really isn't a reason for them to know that. It's like being a teenager and bragging to my parents that I smoke weed and have sex with random guys after school. What good would that do me, especially since I grew up in a conservative and religious family? Nada! It would just bring about a bunch of lectures and create headaches!
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Although I am quite proud of my accomplishments in this underground game I refer to as "The Hobby", I am also quite aware that this industry is illegal, so admitting to my parents that I'm an escort is also admitting to them that I'm a law-breaker. The last thing I need from them is the constant nagging. Telling friends brings about an entirely different set of problems that can make life one big, annoying mess. That's why my conversations about escorting are limited to other escorts, clients, and adult entertainers.
I really do lead a double life, and I make no apologies for doing that. I choose to do so to protect myself and my clients from drama that may arise from me opening my mouth. I'm not the only one who should be keeping quiet about my extra-curricular activities; my clients should remain quiet too. I've heard numerous horror stories about girls being "outed" by boyfriends, friends, and/or lovers, which is one reason why I'm discerning when choosing the people in my personal inner-circle. I don't have the time or the patience for jealous and woefully insecure people in my life. That's a major problem waiting to manifest itself, and too much disclosure can ruin you for LIFE!
Keep in mind that people go to JAIL for slips of the mouth between "friends". People go to JAIL for the innocent "pillow talk" between lovers. If you've decided to tell somebody about your private affairs, you'd better believe that they've told someone, that someone told another someone, and so on and so on. If you're a customer, just keep your mouth closed just like the Mafia movies teach us, and we'll be in business for years to come.