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It is important to keep your sex life exciting and fulfilling in a relationship. Whether you have been with your partner for one year or twenty years, sometimes relationships can go through a sexual funk. There may be days, weeks, or even months that go by without having sex. If you or your partner are finding it difficult to get in the mood for some erotic fun, here are some helpful advice that may spark up the sexual fire in your relationship again. Remember, some of the below tips may be a little out of your comfort zone. The most important aspect of a relationship is that you trust your partner, and are comfortable with him or her. Try to keep an open mind. Even if you try one of our tips below and find that it is not right for you, knowing that you and your partner are making the effort to liven up your sex life can improve your relationship.
Make Time For One Another
Before you can proceed to any of the below tips, it is important to set aside time for one another. Without this special time, one or both partners can feel neglected, which can cause resentment. Even if you have been married for years, it does not mean that you do not have to put as much effort into your relationship. Setting aside a Friday or Saturday night as a date night can keep a relationship strong and remind you of the importance of what you share together.
If you want to bring the excitement and sex back into your relationship, it is essential that bost partners are going to make the effort. Attitude is very important. If you or your partner seem unwilling to try, then the relationship needs to be re-evaluated and a serious conversation needs to happen. However, if you and your partner really want to get back in the sex swing of things, then read on.
Watch An X Rated Movie Together
This suggestion may not be for everyone. However, there is a reason why porn is one of the most successful industries. Watching others have sex and engage in other intimate play can be very arousing. It can also teach you techniques that you may not have tried before. Open up your mind. Just because you watch an adult movie together does not mean you are a pervert.
Read an Erotic Book
If you are an avid reader, you may want to check out some erotic romance novels. If you are more comfortable reading a novel as opposed to watching an adult movie, this may be the choice for you. Reading the most intimate moments in a book can help you to visualize the scene and make it your own fantasy. If your partner is not big into reading, you can discuss what you read in the book and incorporate it into your own bedroom play.
There is nothing like ruining the mood with a planned sexual encounter. Don't plan out when you will have sex. Don't treat sex as if you have to put it on your calendar and pencil it in. Dust off one of your sexy outfits, and give your baggy t-shirts and sweatpants a night off. Some partners love to see their women in a hot little nightie.
Get one another to relax by giving each other an erotic massage. Using scented massage oils coupled with the soothing touch of your partner can release tension and also be arousing. Brands such as Kama Sutra
offer a variety of different massage oils geared towards erotic massage.
Don't be afraid to try something new with your partner. Discuss the possibility of experimenting with light bondage play which can add a lot of excitement and a new twist to your usual bedroom romps. There are a number of kits geared towards first time bondage users. If bondage is not for you, there are other sex toys that can be used during foreplay such as a vibrator
or even during sex. A very popular product is a vibrating ring, which is worn by the male during sexual intercourse. The vibrating ring stimulates the female's genitalia to give pleasure to both partners.
Going through a sexual slump is quite common among couples. However, it is important to recognize this slump before other problems begin to arise in the relationships. It is very essential for both partners to put in the time and the effort into the relationship, and work on rekindling the sexual fire and romance that you one shared. If both partners put in equal effort, your relationships can strengthen and become sexually satisfying once again.