Get Your Sexy Back! Take a journey with me!

3 years ago


Getting Your Sexy Back!We’re all familiar with the old saying  ”if you don’t use it you lose it“, well that applies to your lady bits too.  Did you know that?  Okay, maybe that’s just something my mom told me, or possibly my grandmother, but whoever uttered those words knew what she was talking about. 

The other day my BFF’s and I were engaged in this down and dirty chat about our sex lives. You know you want to be added to that little convo! So it turns out one of us is getting laid regularly, and by that I mean DAILY! As in at least once, sometimes thrice. She’s totally getting her bell rung. A few of us are knocking boots weekly or a couple times a week.  Regular, ya know, like taking a crap but way more fun.  TWO of us are not greasing our oil ever … at all … EVER! I’ll leave the mystery of who falls into each category to your own dirty minds.

Nutella, Banana Crepes & The Horizontal Salsa

The two of us who seem to be on the fast track to crazy cat lady TV stardom are jealous, nay ENVIOUS, of our friends who are getting The Sex regularly.  After all, sex is a good time. Actually a great time!  When you have a partner who is going for broke with you, sex is pretty fucking awesome in a naked kind of way.  Sexual chemistry with a long-term couple is one of the best things out there, if you don’t count Nutella and Banana crepes…but that might just be me.  When you find your sexual groove and you’re doing the horizontal salsa like clockwork, your bits are happy and healthy.  Regular sexual intercourse is GOOD for you!  To all the haters out there who could care less if you ever have sex again, my lady garden weeps for you. It truly does. Sex does a myriad of things for our mental and physical health.

Sex Benefits

Some of the benefits of sex are: Boosts your immunity, lowers your blood pressure, makes your heart feel better, emotionally and physically.  You can actually cut your chances of having a heart attack almost in half by engaging in sex regularly.  It boosts your self-esteem.  For real!  That girl that thinks she’s all that and a bag of Doritos is probably getting laid WAY MORE THAN YOU ARE! Add to that it burns calories, so if you’re feeling like you have put on a few pounds, having sex can help slowly burn those cookies off your ass.  You sleep better, it lowers your pain, the old “I have a headache” is a bullshit excuse for not having sex.  It actually takes your headache away, so stop being so lame with your excuses.  If you don’t want to have sex just say it.

Losing The Desire to Thrust

I know that we are in a prestigious club of many women who have zero desire to take 15 minutes (if you’re lucky) to thrust said penis into said vagina and repeat on a weekly, heck MONTHLY basis.  We aren’t alone in our struggle to WANT to have sex again, physically and emotionally.  Can we even begin to create a check list about what causes us to have ZERO…*ahem LESS than zero desire?  Stress (raises hand) peri menopause (raises hand) menopause (on it’s way) medication (been there) divorce (yup) parenting (eyeballs deep in it).  Let’s get really real…the list is damn well ENDLESSSSSSSSSS!  It can be a long ass journey from zero desire to vixen.  Heck, most of us would even settle for a romp once every few months.

So, where do we go from here?!  How do we get back to having The Sex and loving every minute of it?

Take a journey with me!

Join Natalie, our resident Master Sexologist, starting Jan. 15th on a 10 week journey designed to grab life by the ovaries and get back to enjoying The Sex!

This journey will be filled with a variety of sexual advice and tips to get your sex life back on track, along with a healthy dose of snark and wit, because obviously. Natalie will cover an array of topics including Reconnecting With Your Partner, Peri-Menopause and Your Sex Life, How To Spice It up and Finding Time For Sex.

So climb aboard the bus to O-Town and let the journey begin!

Make sure not to miss any of Natalie’s 10 week journey to grab life by the ovaries and get back to enjoying The Sex! Subscribe to the Toy With Me feed today!

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