Being an Ex comes with a heavy price if you allow it to cost you so much. Often folks don't know when to stop being someone's Ex and start being who they are. So much of our identities are tied to who we were in a marriage. I was thinking about this as I got news of another reality show about the EX wives of celebrities. Some of these women have been divorced from their celebrity ex-husbands for years and years and yet, they are still calling themselves an Ex? WOW!
Now I get that the premise is touted as a show showing the empowerment of women and how these women moved onward and upward in their lives. HHmm... I wonder if that is true. I wonder if this is just another show exploiting women. If there was so much empowerment going on, why the title Hollywood Ex-Wives? The title suggests that these women are nothing without being connected to very famous, rich men. This is my opinion and I could be wrong as the day is long.
I do know in my own everyday practical life, staying tied to someone says you are not free of them. I am not suggesting that we never acknowledge divorce or our exes, especially if there are children. What makes me catch my breath is the continued identity crisis that keeps you tied to someone. When do you define yourself on who you are and not who you were?
I don't want to seem judgmental. And I guess I need to check my projecting my fears onto this show. At the end of the day it's entertainment. And I suspect it will have its share of drama and foolishness. I just hope that women who aren't celebrities will separate fiction from fact and not hold onto a title of ex anything.
Real empowerment isn't something you watch, real empowerment is something you do. For divorcing and divorced women empowerment shows up as your own person, owning your own truth.
Be loving & Be in LOVE
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