from Enfolded in Silence by Barbara Hughes
If you have been sexually abused, you may have rage inside you. Being sexually manipulated or violated causes deep anger. Not being protected or believed causes deep anger. Often this rage is buried. It is usually not safe to express it to the perpetrator directly. You may have wanted to suppress or deny the abuse, and with it you may have buried your anger. Or expressed it inappropriately. But expressed safely, anger is important. It is one way out of victimization. It is a way of transferring the rage we have directed at ourselves into rage against the perpetrator (a necessary step in healing). It is a road to freedom. In my book, Enfolded in Silence/A Story in Art of Healing from Seuxal Trauma in Childhood (Amazon.com), I describe a number of ways that I have learned to express anger safely (safe to ourselves, others and to objects not designated for the anger work). I teach these methods to suvivors of abuse of any age. Doing anger work has been a huge part of my healing. It is a way to peace. Best done at first (or always) in the context of therapy. If you have rage you do not know how to express safely, give my book a look.