Being Paid to Have Sex

5 years ago

“It makes her a slut, right? It makes her a prostitute. She wants to be paid to have sex. She’s having so much sex she can’t afford the contraception.”

Dear God, did I read that correctly? Did I hear that correctly?

These are the comments of a supposedly educated man talking about a 23 year old woman. The man? Rush Limbaugh. The woman? Sandra Fluke.

Sandra was denied the opportunity to testify in front of a Congressional panel about requiring all employers to provide free contraception under the Obama administration’s nationwide health care plan. While discussing her inability to testify, Rush, in his infinite wisdom, seemed to think it was a good idea to liken a woman receiving contraception through her health benefits to that of a “prostitute” (direct quote) and a “slut” (also a lovely direct quote).

I don’t remember the instructions of my birth control pills saying “taking one pill by mouth daily, have sex; repeat”.

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What really gets under my skin is the focus on women. We are being told women are sluts if they use birth control and have sex. What if the employer provided condoms to its male employees at the office or covered them under the prescription plan? Would Rush be accusing men of being “sluts” and “prostitutes”?

And! how much sex is too much sex? Should the government send census workers out once a year to take a tally of what’s going on behind closed doors of honest Americans? For a conservative, Rush sure is pushing for a lot of government intervention into the lives of private citizens.

I think it’s well known to my readers that I’m of a conservative mind set. I don’t think religious organizations should be forced to provide health care coverage for a procedure or treatment they oppose on moral grounds. I think most employees of these religious organizations either hold the same or similar set of morals or are fully aware that their employers holds a moral opinion to certain things and does not approve or encourage their use. In my opinion, if you don’t want to be effected by these morals disassociating yourself from the organization or paying for the product or procedure yourself are the best alternatives.

With that said however, do I think secular organizations/companies who provide their female employees with free birth control are effectively paying them to have sex? NO. HELL TO THE NO. Certain forms of birth control treat other types of illnesses or conditions in women and men and it should not be immediately assumed that a prescription for the same means the patient is off having wild sex at every turn. (And if s/he is then that’s his/her choice.)

While birth control may be a health care benefit so is drug addiction treatment. Based on Rush’s logical I guess my employer would encourage me to take up a drug addiction. In that line of thinking, maybe Rush should sue his employer for his former drug addiction. They paid for him to get addicted to drugs.

It all comes down to this: stay the hell out of my bedroom. Regardless if I’m gay, straight, bi-sexual, tri-sexual, or a birth control pill poppin’ sex fiend, it should be no one’s business but my own and my partner’s what goes on between us when we get down to business. And let it be known as a conservative, dare I say Republican, Rush Limbaugh’s views and the views of his supporters do not represent the majority of conservative America. I think I can speak for the majority when I say we don’t all think women who use birth control are sluts and prostitutes.

I applaud Sandra Fluke. In the midst of all this slander, she has remained above it all. Commenting politely and concisely and getting her opinions heard but never uttering a nasty word towards Rush.

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