5 years ago

        Sometimes when you see couples walking around, professing their love to each other, and LOOKING all ask yourself, where is my man/woman? Why am I single? Sometimes the sight of couples makes you irritated or annoyed because you're alone. IT'S NOT LIKE YOU'RE NOT HAPPY FOR OTHER COUPLES, BUT IT'S HARD SOMETIMES WHEN THE ONLY PERSON YOU'RE LOOKING AT IS YOU.

         That "lonely feeling" you get sometimes will eat and tug at you to just go and find somebody to fill that void. YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A PERSON JUST TO FILL A VOID! SOMETIMES YOU JUST NEED TO HAVE CONTROL AND TELL THAT "FEELING" TO SHUT UP. Let me explain.....

          If you have standards, STICK TO THEM AND DON'T SETTLE. You don't have to go with everything that comes your way, and you shouldn't fall for anything. EVEN IF YOU SEE A "POTENTIAL MATE", DON'T JUST HOP ON THE FIRST TRAIN THAT'S COMING WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE IT'S GOING. Take your time and don't rush into anything. Get to know a person, become friends first, and take it slow.

          DON'T JUST AUTOMATICALLY FORM SOME TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IN THE VERY BEGINNING. For one, you're not sure if you are really supposed to be in a relationship with that person. Before you enter into any relationship, make sure you are ready to handle all to what it takes for a relationship to work. YOU DON'T WANT TO LEAD ANYBODY ON AND HAVE SOMEONE FEELINGS GET HURT BECAUSE YOU ENTERED INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH WRONG MOTIVES.

           I always advise for anybody, MAN OR WOMAN, to stick to their standards, don't settle. and take your time. I want you to be happy and make wise decisions. EVERYTHING YOU DO IS BY YOUR CHOICE, SO YOU CAN ALWAYS TRY TO LIMIT YOUR ISSUES AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. Regardless if you are in a relationship or not, YOU MUST BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF FIRST.

Rae Amor

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