You Didn't Build That. Excuse Me?

Dear President Obama, 
When you were in Roanoke in July and you gave this speech, what were you thinking?  In your own words, without a teleprompter, this is what you said:
"There are a lot of wealthy, successful Americans who agree with me -- because they want to give something back. They know they didn't -- look, if you've been successful, you didn't get there on your own. You didn't get there on your own. I'm always struck by people who think, well, it must be because I was just so smart. There are a lot of smart people out there. It must be because I worked harder than everybody else. Let me tell you something -- there are a whole bunch of hardworking people out there.

If you were successful, somebody along the line gave you some help. There was a great teacher somewhere in your life. Somebody helped to create this unbelievable American system that we have that allowed you to thrive. Somebody invested in roads and bridges. If you've got a business -- you didn't build that. Somebody else made that happen. The Internet didn't get invented on its own. Government research created the Internet so that all the companies could make money off the Internet.

The point is, is that when we succeed, we succeed because of our individual initiative, but also because we do things together. There are some things, just like fighting fires, we don't do on our own. I mean, imagine if everybody had their own fire service. That would be a hard way to organize fighting fires.

So we say to ourselves, ever since the founding of this country, you know what, there are some things we do better together. That's how we funded the G.I. Bill. That's how we created the middle class. That's how we built the Golden Gate Bridge or the Hoover Dam. That's how we invented the Internet. That's how we sent a man to the moon. We rise or fall together as one nation and as one people, and that's the reason I'm running for President -- because I still believe in that idea. You're not on your own, we're in this together."

I disagree. You see Mr. Obama, when my children were 10 and 7, my (now ex) husband decided to start an injection molding manufacturing business with two other men. Yes, he took the initiative to leave the comfort of his job, his place of employment, which provided us with healthcare benefits and a middle class income.  

When we got started, we built the inside of the facility ourselves.  We rented an old sewing factory building.  We cleaned it up, built offices, wired, plumbed and painted. We got it ready to start production. I stopped being a stay at home mom and went to work. I worked from 4 pm until 4 am daily. I put my blood sweat and tears into the business.  If we didn't build it, who did? Someone else did that? Someone else made that happen? Would you like to try and explain that to my kids, when their mom wasn't there to tuck them in at night? 

When my husband graduated from Marquette Dental School he took loans at 17 percent interest rate to start his dental practice. When he started his dental practice in 1985, he had to moonlight to earn money because it takes time to build up a dental practice.  Now, 26 years later, he is a successful dentist. No one handed him anything. 

He didn't build that?  Who did Mr. President? Are you telling me his hard work, sleepless nights studying to get through undergraduate school and then dental school, that this happened because he was given a hand? He worked his way out of poverty Mr. President. He knew he wanted to be a dentist when he was a child and he worked his ass off to get out of the ghetto. 

Listen. I was on your side. Until I googled "what did Obama mean when he said you didn't build that".  No matter how I spin it Mr. President, you said it.  You said:  If you have a successful business, you didn't build that, someone else made that happen.  I've listened to your speech over and over again. I've read other blogs that tried to decipher what you said, why you said it. 

But I can't spin it in your favor Mr. President. You insulted me. You insulted my stepdad who built a successful manufacturing business. You insulted my husband.

I have been openminded, heck, I was going to vote for you. 

Until you said "someone else made that happen". 

You sir, made this happen.  Your words, my blood sweat and tears.  You lost me. Without help.  


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