I didn't realize how much it would mean or that I even needed to hear it at all until I did. As I sat in my car outside work and finished listening these powerful words brought tears to my eyes and touched a place deep within my heart.
You are beautiful. You are enough. The world we live in is twisted and broken and for your entire life you will be subjected to all kinds of lies that tell you that you are not enough. You are not thin enough. You are not tan enough. You are not smooth, soft, shiny, firm, tight, fit, silky, blonde, hairless enough. Your teeth are not white enough. Your legs are not long enough. Your clothes are not stylish enough. You are not educated enough. You don’t have enough experience. You are not creative enough.
There is a beauty industry, a fashion industry, a television industry, (and most unfortunately) a pornography industry: and all of these have unique ways of communicating to bright young women: you are not beautiful, sexy, smart or valuable enough.
You must have the clarity and common sense to know that none of that is true. None of it.
You were created for a purpose, exactly so. You have innate value. You are loved more than you could ever comprehend; it is mind-boggling how much you are adored. There has never been, and there will never be another you. Therefore, you have unique thoughts to offer the world. They are only yours, and we all lose out if you are too fearful to share them.
You are beautiful. You are valuable. You are enough.
I know how it feels to be that girl who feels worthless and does not believe she is good enough. I never believed in myself and felt I had nothing to offer. I've come such a long way towards accepting and finding the good in myself after spending so many years tearing myself down. I am not the same person I was in my teens and 20's and that's a good thing. Some measure of peace and acceptance has come with age, life experiences and a wonderful husband and for that I am grateful. Had I heard these same words back then they would have made me cry but I probably wouldn't have believed them for even a second. Today they not only made me cry but I actually believe them to be true. I cried for the sad and depressed teenage girl I used to be but then I smiled at the more confident and happy woman I have become.
This is #10. You can find the rest of Ten Things I Want to Tell Teenage Girls on Kate Connor's blog Lilly Pads. Thank you Kate for writing this and thank you AJ of from Star 94.1 for seeing the value in this and sharing it on the radio. I'm sure I'm not the only girl who needed to hear it. I'm not a teenager anymore but I can still relate. It applies to women of all ages.
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