In solidarity with my sisters of the world, I am declaring National “Bitch Fatigue” Day (I don’t’ know if I can really declare a national day of anything- so perhaps this is just my own personal day. But you can declare it too if you like. Maybe we can use it as a paid holiday).
Now you just might be asking yourself, what is “bitch fatigue?” Why does it need its own day? Many of you have experienced bitch fatigue and will recognize the symptoms. They come upon you when you worry that if you try too hard, you will be called “pushy.” If you point this out, you are a bitch. If you complain about it, you are no mere run-of-the-mill bitch - no siree bub- you are a whiny bitch. If you try to play nice and be soft and quiet, you are, 1) not pulling your weight; 2) being too passive; 3) told to speak up; 4) told that you need to “lean in.” (I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sure we’ve leaning in for millennia. Why do you think we all have osteoporosis and become stooped over old women? It’s the legacy of all those generations of women leaning in - which, by the way, is often mistaken for bowing down. Besides, you lean in too much you fall over or someone looks down your shirt. Leaning in is highly over rated). So…all of this leaves one very fatigued; bitch fatigued. If untreated, it can advance to paralytic bitch fatigue during which a woman is so confused and tired of the whole mess that she can’t act at all. Paralytic bitch fatigue should be avoided at all cost, as it can only be treated with wine, chocolate, and six months of rehab someplace peaceful with clean bathrooms where someone behind the scenes does all the cooking and laundry. So as you can see, this is an important, often over-looked, and undiagnosed syndrome. I think it needs its own ribbon; perhaps something gray and rather tattered. We could make them from old dishrags. But for today, let’s work on prevention. Let’s make a pact. On this day, National Bitch Fatigue Day, let’s agree to be who we are; quiet, loud, passive, aggressive, happy, sad. Lean in, lean out, stand up, sit down, take a breath and take a break.
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