Lately, a topic swirling around my religious internet circles causes me to squirm. The subject: one should not marry outside one's faith. The Bible passage referenced is from the Old Testament book of Malachi, sharing warnings to men marrying women who believe in different gods. Since I was a teen, I've heard the comical term, "missionary dating" when a Christian enters a romantic relationship with a non-Christian.
“Missionary dating will lead to divorce.”
If you’re a blog follower, you know all about my atheist boyfriend who became my husband. Through our relationship, Edd became a believer in Christ and by watching him in his faith, my mother-in-law, sister-in-law, niece and nephew became believers, too.
What if my own girls fall in love with someone outside our Christian faith? I cannot fathom loving them any less because of their marriage choices. If dreams come true, my girls will marry men who share in their love of Jesus and will treat my darlings in the same way Christ loved his church. (Ephesians 5:25) At present time, however, we live in a highly populated Asian-Indian community where just as many neighbors celebrate Dewali as do Christmas. Who knows where the girls will end up going to college or traveling after high school? I have to accept the fact that should my girls marry one day, it may not be to a Christian.
Am I all-right with this? If the men my daughters marry treat them as the princesses (small bias) they are, then yes. You know why? Just because someone says he is a Christian does not mean he may not also be a total jerk.
Let me tell you about my sister-from-another-mister’s first husband. He worked for the church, he lead Bible studies and he loved Jesus. He also loved drugs and alcohol. So much did he love his substances that he drove while on them. He killed not only himself, but a mother of small children sitting in the passenger seat of another car.
Can I tell you about another friend so dear to me? The one who married a man who, like her, grew up in the church. Only instead of prayer he found physical abuse to be an acceptable means of release.
I would rather have my children marry atheists/Muslims/Hindus/Jews who have kind, faithful souls rather than a Jesus loving abuser. Just because a man loves Christ does not mean he is without serious demons. And just because a man is not a Christ follower doesn't mean he is without a heart of gold.
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