Why All The Sex Talk On BlogHer?

3 years ago

I have been a part of BlogHer for 3-4 years. I am in their publishing network, and I get the daily newsletter. The reason I'm writing this is that I'm getting a little tired of clicking over to BlogHer and I might as well have clicked on to Cosmopolitan, as so many articles posted are sexual in nature. 

Now I'm not at all conservative in politics or manner nor sexuality. I could never have been called a prude. But now I'm 57 years old, and my years of reading Cosmopolitan magazine are far behind me. 

I came to adulthood in an era when women spoke more of feminism, not relationships and sex and orgasm and all that. Yes, we talked about it. But unless you picked up a magazine geared to twenty and thirty-somethings, it wasn't always in your face. I'm finding lately that even here, on BlogHer, which I've always loved, it's kind of in my face. And I'm not altogether too happy about that. 

No, I'm not in a relationship. I'm happily divorced, and I haven't had sex in some time. Being post-menopausal, the old hormones just aren't cranking like they use to.  I realize that most media venues are geared toward twenty and thirty somethings, and I guess I should throw in forty-somethings, and that's why I'm seeing this "Cosmo reflection staring back at me."

Yes, we're sexual beings. But it's not everything. And coming to adulthood in a feminist era, I find myself flinching every time I see a photo on here of a woman seated on the side of the bed, obviously deep in thought, while the man snoozes. She's worrying about her sexual health. We are inundated with commercials and promos about this subject. But I expect better from BlogHer. Maybe I expect BlogHer to be the "Gloria Steinem" of this era. But perhaps I shouldn't be.

Yet I wasn't seeing this a year ago on this platform. What gives? Somehow it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Like the BlogHer I know and love is changing before my very eyes.



Brenda@Cozy Little House

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