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"You don't like me or you would do it for me." (Guilt)
"It's okay, smoke this weed. Nobody will know." (Secrecy)
"I'd really appreciate it if you would stay and work late again." (Imposition)
These are boundary issues. Attempted manipulations. They will not work without your permission. When you concede ground, it will be expected of you. If you change what you are comfortable with for other people, you may resent the situation and them. When you maintain clear, comfortable and consistent boundaries - everybody benefits. People know what to expect from you and your self knowledge increases. Another beautiful balance.