What If You Found Out Your Spouse Was an Internet Troll?

20 days ago

Jezebel had a story today from Reddit about a woman who discovered her husband of six years was an Internet troll.  According to the poster, she discovered this accidentally on their shared computer after her husband went to work for the day.  After she realized the extent of his online activities spewing hate at strangers, she confronted him and was told that he used his trolling as an emotional release.


Some people eat chocolate or go running.  Others tell teenagers that they're ugly and should go kill themselves.

Image: Dennis Skley via Flickr

You can't help but ask yourself what you would do if you found yourself in the same situation; if you discovered that your significant other trolled the Internet, leaving nasty comments.

What if the comments were merely hurtful, critical, meant to draw blood but ultimately a response to the words on the screen?

What if the comments weren't a response to a blog post, but instead were commentary on the writer herself?

What if the comments became sexual in nature or violent?

What if they were hate speech?

What if your significant other refused to stop?

Is being an Internet troll grounds for a divorce in an otherwise good marriage?  The poster wrote:

He said he trolled/bullied people because it was an outlet for him to relieve stress. He said he didn't view the people as real, or what he was doing as anything other than a joke, and if it hurt feelings, "those people have bigger problems and it's not my fault." ... This was not the man I married. Or so I thought. But I guess it is.

What would you do if you discovered that your significant other was an Internet troll?

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens and Lost and Found. Her novel about blogging is Life from Scratch.

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