Well That Was Embarrassing {Should A Link Party Hurt My Feelings?}

4 years ago
I am no stranger to rejection.  
I remember sitting at the sliding door, my nose pressed against the glass, waiting for the friends that never showed up. I remember the amazing pinata I'd made from a cereal box - how it hung there in the tree like a body on a noose - the final nail in the coffin of my pitiful dream of gilded nine-year-old popularity.  
My poor mother.  Calling her mother and ladling my broken spirit through the receiver as if my grandma might catch it in a cup, breathe her love upon it and pour it back to fix me like soup.  "Can you come? Please come! Bring her cousin. Nobody Showed Up!"
Such was the big wide curse of a birthday near Christmas.  I was never more important than whatever was happening anywhere else in the entire world.
And so...I am no stranger to rejection.
And once again, like old times, nobody showed up to my party.  I mean, I went - just to test the waters - but no one came in after me.
I thought about having hurt feelings but then I realized a 'link party' isn't really the purpose of this blog, is it? Honestly, I just thought it would be fun to offer a place for people to share their goodies...but then again, that's why we have Pinterest, right?!

If nothing else, I learned a few things:

  • It's easy.  I used InLinkz and the process was a breeze.  (And your first party is free - thank goodness!)
  • I am a much better guest than I am a hostess.  I have no intentions of turning my blog into a dedicated crafting space and I think the blogs that are successful with 'parties' are the ones that are 100% dedicated to their craft.
  • I was able to create a super cute linkup button & make it functional {though it didn't get used despite being super cute} so, if nothing else I increased my knowledge in writing simple code and designing pretty blog elements.
  • I realized that perhaps this blog is not the place for other people to share - perhaps it's all for me in all it's pretty glory and I'm okay with that.
  • I won't be a baby about it and I won't take it down just because an empty party makes me look like a loser - I want to be honest in all things, including how nobody wants to play with me *hides face in arm and sobs*


First shared here

Alanna Rusnak writes honest blog posts reflecting her world as a mother of three, wife of one, employee of a church, and a lover of beauty over at SelfBinding Retrospect&

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