I realized today that there are 3 weeks until Thanksgiving. I have to admit that knowing that freaked me out a little, ok… a lot. This morning I was updating my calendar and as I flipped through each week I saw how busy our days are. I guess you could say I’m still adjusting to managing my mom’s schedule, next week will be two months since she came home from the hospital after her stroke, and managing all her appointments can be a challenge some days. Currently she has acupuncture, physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy on a weekly basis. Then sprinkle in the occasional doctor appointments and it becomes appointment soup in my calendar.
There are benefits to being an only child to a single mother – I don’t have to worry about any siblings not coming through to help out when they say they will or wonder if the division of the responsibilities is fair. The buck stops here and I just have to do it. However, the drawback to being an only child is that there is no one else to share the responsibility, it’s all up to me and there are definitely some days when it gets overwhelming. I need a break. When I looked at the November calendar it doesn’t seem like there’s time in the foreseeable future for me to get a break. My “work day” begins at 5:30 am when the alarm goes off, some days I don’t get out of bed at that time but my brain is on – thinking, working towards figuring out the day, prioritizing what needs to get done, planning what will get done. My day doesn’t end until some time between 11:00 pm and midnight.
In those waking hours of my day, I am not only responsible for my mom’s care but I am also keeping the rest of the family functioning. Mr. Skinny has a lot of senior year things to deal with. Mr. Snugglebunny just finished baseball season so we had to deal with practices and game schedules. Basketball practices start next week.
I think I’m in a time deficit. I keep having days where I think if I only had 12 more hours in the day. I know I don’t, there’s no way. I also know that there are people who manage more than I do in the same 24 hour period.
Just the other day I mentioned to someone that at least my body was cooperating. Now I can say that was was the operative word. Yesterday I went to the doctor after a sleepless night with sharp lower back pain on the left side. I knew before I even went it, I have a kidney infection. I’ve started a 10-day course of antibiotics which should knock it right out. The only problem is that I can’t go in for my methotrexate injection or my Orencia IV infusion while I’m on antibiotics. It would be too much for my immune system. My next appointment for those will be November 15th, I know my body will be sorely missing the medications. Hopefully, my body will be able to tolerate the time between treatments.
I think I’m going to try some different strategies and techniques for dealing with time so that I can feel better about how I spend my time and not feel so overwhelmed by the things I have to do. I’m reminded of how the clock keeps ticking and it doesn’t stop.
What tips, strategies and/or techniques do you use to help you feel good about the demands on your time and how you deal with them?
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