Did your mom say that to you? My mom did, and I can still hear her saying it in my head. I just said it myself, to my sister, about an hour ago.
Well, that's what I get for thinking that the weeping was under control. As soon as my mom went home, I started battling it. On Sunday, after church, one of my friends asked me if I was doing okay. Instead of saying "Yes, I'm fine", I hesitated and then admitted the truth. Then she wrapped me up in her arms and prayed over me. Now, she's about 6' tall, and I'm 5'1", so I was well and truly embraced and surrounded by her loving arms, and by extension, the loving arms of Jesus. I cried all over her bosom, but she didn't mind. She cried with me.
Then yesterday evening a careless and thoughtless remark sent me to my bedroom where I cried until I decided to forgive that person for their total lack of understanding about how a remark such as the one which was made could be perceived by a person who had recently been bereaved (for lack of a better description). I doubt that person will ever apologize or probably even understand what they said (if they even noticed how hurt I was), but that's okay. That's between them and God. I did my part and forgave, so it won't be charged to my account or block my blessings.
I've been trying to explain this to my sister, who is thinking way too much about the things said to her and taking them, repeating them over and over, and letting them dictate how she feels about herself. That other saying from our childhood, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me", is a lie from the pit of hell. Words have tremendous power, for both good and evil. I wish I could MAKE her understand how she is hurting herself by allowing herself to be offended. But I can't; that is something she must learn. All I can do is tell her and pray that she gets it sooner rather than later. After all, I have known that for years, and I fell into that trap myself yesterday.
In the meantime, I will continue to pray for my sister that she can trust in His plan for her, and not try to figure it out herself. I certainly don't understand it, and I believe I have a lot more practice in trusting the Lord than she does. I do understand that she likes to know the why of things, and the how. I do too. But I had the advantage of a husband who lived and breathed the Word, and her husband was an agnostic quite literally until he was on his deathbed. So I know the ultimate how and why, if not the intricate details of the here and now. I have a solid grounding in the Word, because of my study with my husband and now by myself. She struggled on her own to understand the King James Version of the Bible, because that is the one our Daddy gave us and she didn't know that the other ones can make it so much easier to comprehend. I am plugged into a church that has solid teaching, and she is attending a church that sounds a lot like a social club (I haven't been there, so I am only saying that based on her remarks).
So that's what you get for thinking. Make sure your thoughts are not hurting you. God's thoughts toward you won't. Read Jeremiah 29:11 if you don't believe me.
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