What makes a good boundary? Being yourself while appreciating others. Know what you want as you value other people. Communicate your self knowledge and stand up for what you believe in without harming anybody or anything. Although we all constantly change like ebb and flow throughout life, if we are clear and respectful with ourselves we can be clear and respectful with other people.
Most of us have been burned by letting something slide only to have to deal with a dramatic evolution of the problem later. Don't focus on what other people think of you. It is better to be proactive if something is nagging at us a little than reactive to a full blown crisis later on. Setting boundaries gives us space, breathing room to be ourselves and the ability to enjoy other people and life. Setting good boundaries is a way of taking care of ourselves and all the people we interact with.
from my home blog at: http://allwaysoptions.blogspot.com
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