Playing the Piano Does Ease My Stress . . .

6 years ago

Playing the piano does ease my stress . . .

                                                 (Mom and me on Easter 2007.  Mom likes us to dress alike, so I agree to this on holidays:)

Today we meet with mom's care team at 1:30PM.  Phil and Zak will be with me and the others will be the treating doctor (a geriatric specialist), the social worker, either the PT or PT, and the floor case manager.  I am nervous.  I am scared.

When the social worker set up this meeting she said it was to discuss what is going on with mom, and decisions on the next steps to take with her.  I assume this means that we need to discuss continuing on with rehab or looking at long term care.  I am scared to death they are going to tell me to take her home. No.  She is not ready to come home.

Mom is in a wheelchair now.  She can't do anything on her own. Her memory fades in and out worse than ever.  I cannot even imagine her being sent home with us.  It scares me think this is a real possibility.  My sanity was fragile before as her care became more and more demanding and I could no longer leave her alone to  run to the market or go to the gym for an hour.  It was 24/7 and to say this is hard is an understatement.  At lease then mom could get up and dress herself, and come and go from her bedroom to the living room, to the bathroom.  Now she is not capable of any of that and I am not physically strong enough to give her the care she needs.  I don't know what to do.  I keep praying that the right decisions will be made for mom and she will continue with care at Avalon.

When I was out to visit on Sunday afternoon, I asked the nurse if mom could start taking her meals in the dining room instead of in her room.  She needs to be around other people. Mom has a tendency to isolate herself and while she doesn't recognize that she is doing this, I do and I want her to be around people more.  On Sunday she ate dinner, for the first time, in the dining room and she seemed to enjoy OK.  I told her this is where her meals would be from now on and she agreed.  I haven't been through dinner since so I don't know if she'd followed through with it or not, but the nursing assistants come and move the patients into the dining room so I am sure they are getting her there.  I hope so.

I did get to my piano lesson this morning, and while my heart wasn't it playing, it was a good outlet for me.  I really feel like going into the studio and practicing before leaving for the meeting.  Playing does take my mind off the meeting and I can bang out a few sheets of Ode to Joy.  Ludwig seems to to be a great stress buster for me.

Phil and I managed to join LA Fitness this weekend and worked out on Saturday.  I went again last evening and sweat like I haven't sweat in a long time.  Between the cardio and the piano I seem to be working hard at destressing myself.  I also have started cooking a lot healthier for Phil. He's doing a pseudo version of the South Beach diet, trying to reduce his carb intake, so I'm cooking from the cookbook, which is really very good and healthy. The good news is that I can eat 90% of the what I cook for him, leaving out the meat for me. He's liking the food and I am liking getting back into cooking.  After our months of menus from Pioneer Woman we need to stop eating her food and lose the weight we gained from all that high fat food (how does Ree Drummond stay as slim as she is, if she is actually eating all that fat every single meal?)  I'm also keeping a food and exercise journal in FitDay.com and so far so good.

Time to go practice for an hour before I need to leave for the care center.

Playing the piano does ease my stress  .   .   .

                   Marileigh

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