The other heroes!! (In my opinion!)

5 years ago

I have not posted about my weight loss this week due to my car not running and I was not able to get to my weight watchers meeting.  I plan on attending next week – I am still on track and counting my points so we should have another banner week of weight loss.  

I did interview for a new position at work on Thursday and I am positive they were thinking about me when they created this position.  I think the interview went well and should know one way or the other in a week or so.  I get the sense they would really like to have someone in that position pretty soon.  Everyone from the types like lightening department is pulling for me – they are not trying to get rid of me because should they decide another candidate is better qualified I will still be one of those typing like lightening!!  It is a great opportunity and I am looking forward to the new adventure – we will have to hold briefly for the decision however!  Yes the waiting part – while they interview all the other candidates.  It was good that I got to be the first interview- now everyone has to measure up to me right?!? 

While I was at work today I was thinking about Veterans Day – what with Thomas being where he is, doing what he is doing. I was thinking also about the young lady who has been really helpful to not only me but all the other parents, wives, girlfriends, husbands, etc. of the soldiers in training her husband is in charge of.  Her name is Carolyn and she has been keeping us updated on the Facebook page of the company my son is in.  She posts not every single day but very often and lets us know what they had done that day, updating the progress and our favorite –posting pictures of our soldiers in training.  I for one am thankful for her postings because I like knowing what they are doing.  It is very interesting the things they are learning.  I am steeling my self to be ready for a very different son when I see him next.  I would expect he will be more of a man than the child he went in as.  (SIGH – I know- I am working on it!) Give a mom a break – it is hard to not see him when he was three with his big really dark brown eyes and those long lashes- he would grab my leg and look up and say “Mommy I really just love you!”  Now, the last picture I was able to make out to be him was one of him in an Army uniform holding a gun that was almost as tall as he is!  The welling up of emotion!!  The proud mom part wins out and I am looking forward to his new adventure and know that God has his hands around him to protect him- because I am one fierce prayer warrior and I cover him every day! 

Anyway back to my new friend Carolyn – She had posted some information and I as well as several others of us needed clarification. She made herself available for us to call her and ask specific questions.  Okay I called – and do you know what I found out! She is not only a wife and a mom she has also served our great country in service.  She is now married to a man who is responsible for teaching my son and his fellow cadets how to be good soldiers – so he is a hero in my book.   Thank you for your service sir!  But the amazing part is she is doing all her daily chores, and keeps us updated on what our soldiers are learning that day.  She goes out and takes pictures and then posts them, answers all the questions on the Facebook page- while dealing with their child.  She is amazing in my book!!  To make things even crazier for her they did get orders to move to a whole other state not terribly close to where they are now and because the class won’t be over until just before Christmas she is in charge of the move on her own.  She will have someone to help with the heavy lifting and such but she still has the long drive with the baby by herself.  

Now don’t get me wrong I am not speaking ill against her husband he has to fulfill his orders and will join her as soon as possible. And I would imagine he hates the situation as much as she does.  And because it is the Army I am pretty positive she will have movers to be able to come and help her but know it still will not be any fun.  I have moved a kagillion times and can tell you from experience even if you had someone come in and pack all your boxes and put them all on the truck you still have stuff that has to get done that can turn out to be a real pain!! 

Carolyn was not whining or making out like feel sorry for her – absolutely not - she is just doing what she has to do just like the rest of us.  So I am not making any pleas or saying any thing specific but will finally get to my point here.  Do you remember how in an earlier entry we had talked about theTitusMinistry?  How the older women are to teach the younger women? Wouldn’t it be just right up that alley for a church group to step in and check in with the base and see if there was a way that they could give her a hand?  Maybe just an afternoon or two of free babysitting so she can really hit her chore list uninterrupted for more than just as long as the baby sleeps, or some help washing windows and dusting out that corner of the closet when it’s empty. You have to know there are hundreds of full time heroes that serve everyday at that base so she is not the only one who could use a loving touch like that. What about those in your own community?  We have soldiers that are on deployment all over the world so there are a lot of wives/husbands that are forced to face the day to day challenges in life alone when they were used to having that help from their partner.  They are the other heroes in my book! 

Are we doing all we can?  Are there organizations out there that these women can reach out to?  I think this is part of what God meant when he said to love one another. 

John 13:34-35 (NLT)

34 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. 35 Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” 

Titus2:7-8 (NLT)

And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching. Teach the truth so that your teaching can’t be criticized. Then those who oppose us will be ashamed and have nothing bad to say about us. 

Part of loving one another could be to be available to the single moms as well.  Speaking as one who was a single mom-when I was involved in the Titus ministry I was one of the ones on the receiving end.  I had some awesome teachers who mentored me.  It was just sometimes enough to know that there was someone out there that had lived through what I was going through at the time and came out shining on the other end!  

The more I think about this the more I think of others who could be mentored- single moms, unwed mothers, pregnant teenagers struggling with the decisions of adulthood way to young!  The list could grow a mile long! My point is (and I am challenging myself as well) are we as Christians doing our part here?  Are we so busy with our lives, going to meetings, car repairs, working, soccer practice, football games, insert here what you are so busy with that you forget to look up and around at who else is around you.   Do something little even- if you are taking your kids to the same practice field every day offer to help that single mom who works all day and is going to school at night by taking her child with you.  It is probably right on the way and you don’t even realize it.  She can then be more focused on her class knowing that her child got to practice and will get home in one piece.   This has caused me to do some serious soul searching on my own!!

I am praying for you!

Miss Wanda


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