M&M—Motherhood—Keeping it Sweet During Menopause

4 years ago

http://www.shmirshky.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/Ellen_Dolgen_Menopause_Monday.jpgRemember, M&M’s, that milk chocolate candy that melted in your mouth—not in your hand? At our age, M&M may have another meaning—Motherhood and Menopause. You may find that it is you that is melting down as your perimenopause and menopause hot flashes and other symptoms are spiraling out of control.

Motherhood and Menopause are strange bedfellows. With more women giving birth at 40+, the two M’s can become a challenging tag team.

How to keep calm and carry on, while not losing it with your kids on a daily basis?

Menopause Remedies:

  • Friends
  • Diet
  • Menopause Doctor


The sisterhood is a powerful group. Friends are ageless—be sure to reach out to them, especially when menopause and depression move in. Even the renowned Mayo Clinic asserts friends will ‘enrich your life and improve your health.’

Menopause support means we share, we listen, and we help each other through good and bad times. It is wonderful to have a supportive group of friends of all ages that you can talk with, learn from and openly share your challenges and feelings. No matter whether you meet for coffee, a drink, a brisk walk or quick phoner –it’s amazing how much better you will feel sharing with your friends! Cheapest therapy ever!

It can be a real challenge juggling children while going through perimenopause and menopause, no matter how young you may feel in your mind. Magazine covers touting Halle Berry and Tina Fey who look perfect after giving birth at 40+ projects a fairy tale illusion. It is important to remember that these celebrities often have a tremendous amount of staff and support. On the other hand, Patsy Kensit, an over-45 actress shared her more realistic struggle with ‘menopause hell’ and motherhood. After her hysterectomy, she battled to find the proper HRT combination. Now past the fog, this former rock star has rediscovered the value of female friends. Kudos to Patsy for going public with her struggle.


We have all heard the old saying, “You are what you eat”. Most of us ignore this as we grab that sticky bun at the office. We know that during perimenopause and menopause women often suddenly see the numbers on the scale increasing. Menopausal weight gain is largely determined by five factors: hormones, diet, exercise, stress, and genetics. It is true that we can’t control all of these factors on our own; however we are in control of what we eat.

Lay off the cupcakes while you’re icing them and send sugar and refined carbs packing. Moderate dietary changes can have a solid effect on your frame of mind. Research shows following a Mediterranean Diet rich in olive oil, vegetables, fruits and nuts decreases menopausal symptoms by as much as 20%!

Menopause Specialist:

Would you take your son to a dentist to set his broken arm? Of course not! Same is true for the treatment of your perimenopause and menopause symptoms. It is important to find a Menopause Specialist. This may not be your current OB/GYN or the doctor who delivered your babies. A Menopause Specialist will evaluate your symptoms, your health history and create an individual program just for you. I have a Menopause Doctor Directory on my website. You can type in your zip code and see if someone has recommended a doctor in your area and check out these additional tips which will help you find a doctor and hormone happiness! A great Menopause Specialist is the best gift you can give yourself this Mother’s Day.

No need to melt down; instead welcome your new M&M (Motherhood and Menopause) to the party. With a few simple steps you can embrace menopause and love motherhood!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Suffering in silence is OUT! Reaching out is IN!

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