has certainly been a while since I have done a book report, but I enjoy reading business books as much as I do for pleasure. My latest page turner is the controversial book "Lean In" by Sheryl Sandberg.
I came to learn about this book via twitter during a tweetchat I happened to come across while following the hashtag #workingmoms. I did a little research and $12.99 purchased the book on my ipad. I am just beginning the book and hope to break it out into chunks as I finish a few chapters. Here are my thoughts and takes from this first chapter.
Chapter 1 Here is my point of view for reference. I am a working mom. I have had a job since I was 13 years old. I now work full-time, am married and have two wild boys. I am the bread winner and career focused person in our marriage and thankfully my husband is a Type-A, OCD cleaner and keeps the house in order. I have to say the "role reversal" has been tough on our marriage. Maybe because I have a preconceived notion based on the way that I grew up that the wife took care of the kids and home and the dad worked full-time. But, I am a competitive, go-getter with my eye on the sky. So this chapter really made sense to me.
Top Thoughts: 1.) Career Stereotypes. Interestingly enough she points out that many years ago there were really only two career choices for women, a teacher and a nurse. Coincidentally my mom is a nurse and my sister is a teacher. My dad's sister is a teacher, and my mom's sister is a teacher. I can't say that when I see a man in scrubs I don't fist think he is a doctor and vice versa.
2.) Advocating for oneself. Someone once told me if you don't fight for yourself, no one else will. Why? Because they are busy fighting for themselves. As uncomfortable as it may be in the beginning asking for what you want and just as importantly, deserve, is crucial to exceeding. I have asked for raises, jobs, change of bosses and while each time it was uncomfortable to open the can of worms, it excelled me in my career. Knowing how to ask tactfully and make it business focused and not "me-focused" was the key to progression.
3.) Leadership Ambition Gap. There is a gap in the desire to reach the "C-Suite" among men and women. I often think, gosh, I wouldn't want my bosses job. He has to make tough decisions, people won't always like his choices and he probably has more sleepless nights than a new mother. Maybe, it doesn't have to be this way, although I am thinking if you are passionate about your career it is inevitable. This also discusses the ratios of men vs. women in wanting to achieve a high-paying career being higher for women. The study was done on 18-34 year olds which also makes me wonder if they really understand what having a family means and what joy it gives that money can't buy. There is a happiness level that you can't reach by simply 'making a lot of money.'
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