What Can Happen If You Just Say Yes?

4 years ago
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Let’s play a game.  The game is called "Have you ever?". All you need to do is answer “yes” or “no” to the questions.  Easy-peasy, right?  Okay!  So, let’s begin …

  • Have you ever said "no" to joining that new dance class?
  • Have you ever said "no" to asking out that hot guy/girl that you have been admiring from afar?
  • Have you ever said "no" to dyeing your hair or having that new, shorter and much sexier hairstyle?
  • Have you ever said "no" to changing careers?

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Be honest, how many times have you said “no” to something that you really wanted to do or experience, only to regret it later down the line?  Once? Twice? A hundred times or more?  Me, too!


So, many times in life you say “no” when your soul is screaming “YES.” Your soul knows that the time is right for you to take the plunge.  It knows that the Universe has got your back and is just waiting to give you that feeling, that opportunity that it knows that you deserve.  But, it lets out a huge sigh every time you listen to your ego and say “no.”

Your ego thinks that it is pretty smart.  It thinks that it knows what is best for you.  And it I has no hesitation in telling you about all of the things that could go wrong if you say “yes.” You know when the ego is speaking to you because it sounds a little like this:

  • “You can’t afford it.”
  • “What if it all goes wrong?”
  • “He/she/they will say “no” and you’ll be rejected.”
  • “You have no rhythm and two left feet.  You will be a laughing stock at dance class.”
  • “It isn’t going to work.”

Then, if it gets the feeling that you are going to say “yes” anyway, it will step things up a gear.  Remember, the ego is smart, and it will scan your memory bank in search of times when you felt rejected and embarrassed.  Doing so in order to say “See, you’ve said 'yes' before and look how that turned out.” 

Now, for the killer blow.  Your ego is right.  It could all go belly up.  You probably have said “yes” before only to have been left red-faced or with mud on your face.  But, that is life.  Sometimes the proverbial happens.  But when it does, you learn from it and move on.

You are no longer the person that you were back then. Today, you are smarter, wiser and cooler than you were back then.  You listen to the quiet voice of your soul much more than you used to.  You don’t make rash, impulsive choices like you used to, either.  By saying “yes” today, you are coming from a much different place than the one you resided at back then.

By saying “yes,” it is quite possible that things could turn out way better than you could ever have imagined.  It’s possible that you will receive blessings that you have only dreamed of.  You could meet someone or a whole bunch of people who change and rock your world forever!  Wouldn’t it be sad if you missed out on all of this just because you listened to the ego and said “no”?

Don’t get me wrong; I am not advocating going wild and quitting your job to do outreach work in Africa.  Nor am I saying that you should be a wally who just says “yes” for the sake of it even though you have no intention of following through.  But what I am saying is that you know when change needs to happen in your life.  You know when you are merely existing, rather than living.  You also know when you are holding yourself back from doing the things that you really want to do.  If the latter is you, then don’t you think it’s time to cut the apron strings from your over-protective ego-self?  Yes, the ego-self serves the purpose of protecting you from the pain you may ever have experienced and felt in the past.  However, it’s important to respond to that burning desire for change/something new that has been put inside you for a reason.  Tbh, it probably will not go away until you say “yes.”

I’ll tell you a little secret: When I started saying “yes” when my ego was saying “no,” uber-cool things started happening in my life.  Don’t get me wrong; saying “yes” didn’t come easy.  In fact, it scared the shit out of me.  Why? Because it meant going beyond my comfort zone and being vulnerable.  But I pushed through it, focusing on what I wanted.  These are just some of the awesome opportunities that I said “yes” to when my ego said “no.”

  • Working as a psychic for the UK’s leading and longest-running psychic TV show
  • Training to become (and eventually becoming) an Angelic Reiki healer and teacher
  • Training with an amazing teacher at a fraction of the usual price for such a course
  • Being featured in popular spiritual magazines, including OM Times and Spirit & Destiny
  • Defying my critics and the so-called experts and working in industries that I loved

Don’t get me wrong -- I don’t always say “yes,” and there are times when I have faced some real challenges after saying “yes.” Although, it comes as no surprise that when this happened my words and feelings were not in alignment (more on that in another blog post).

Ultimately, what you must remember is that whether you are saying “no” or “yes,” the Universe is always listening.  Not only is it listening but it’s also responding and co-creating with you.  All you need to do is decide what you want more of in your life.  More of the same -– say “no” more.  A chance for something more –- say “yes”.  Simple.

Okay, it takes practice, but you will get the hang of it.  So, what are you going to say “yes” to today?  Tell me, tell me, tell me, I want to know.  Say “yes” to sharing with me today (if you want to of course). 

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