I'm Not Just A Stay-At-Home Mom
A few months ago, my well-meaning brother said to me in an online conversation, that he was concerned that I may "lose my edge" because I am no longer the marketing 'guru' I used to impersonate. Instead, I am 'wasting' my acquired skills by being a stay-at-home mom to my baby (now toddler).
Before y'all take your catapults out and ask me where my brother is located (hint: nearer to you than me, he lives in the States), let me say that I was not offended.
Well, maybe a little.
Okay, I was incensed. At first. When I'd calmed down, I thought about what he said, and realized that of course, he had no idea what he was talking about. He is clearly not aware of the multifaceted roles mothers play. And I mean all mothers, not just stay-at-home ones.
The following are the skills that one employs at work, which we moms, exercise all the time.
If you're a mother, you will know exactly what I mean. We have children to feed, bathe, play with and entertain, put to bed. We have husbands to feed, play with and entertain, and er, put to bed. And if your children are school age, throw in lunch making, driving them to school and various activities. And laundry, who can forget the never ending mountain of laundry? If you blog, you have to factor in time to write posts, read blogs, comment, tweet, network!
If we mothers weren't so good at multitasking, how do you think we manage all these tasks? Which mom doesn't prep dinner, stick something in the oven and while it cooks, quickly checks for new posts to read and comment on? Which mom doesn't feed the children while they sit in the bathtub? (okay, maybe it's just me) Which mom doesn't play with the children and chat with the husband about their day? Which mom doesn't fold laundry and catch up with the latest US Weekly issue?
All moms have superior organizational skills. How else do you think we sort out weekly play dates? Or figure out which child is due for their shots and dentist visits? Who is the one who schedules chores around the house? Or know who has violin lessons on Monday, football on Tuesday, ballet on Wednesday, swim class on Thursday and baseball on Friday?
Moms have to look after the household (bills, cleaning up, groceries), the children, the husband. Without organizational skills, said household? Will collapse.
Moms, especially experienced ones, can convey messages to children without speaking. One look, and their child will shush. One look, and their child will know they have to pick up after themselves. One look, and their child knows they need to do their homework.
Yelling works too, I hear.
Also? The best blogs are written by moms. Fact.
Event Management Skills
Birthday parties complete with theme, homemade birthday cake and other scrumptious goodies, decorations, party favors, games, invitations, hosting, photographs - moms worldwide do that all the time. It is no mean feat, especially when your 'client' is a headstrong child who knows exactly what he/ she wants.
Holiday dinners complete with an 8 course meal, invitations, gorgeous table setting, making sure the children are dressed properly, making sure said children are clean, the house is clean, and the drinks plentiful. Just writing all that down is making the vein in my head throb. But moms everywhere do that, all the time.
So, to my brother: I do not think that being a stay-at-home mom will make me lose my edge. In fact, it is going to hone the skills I picked up in the corporate world, thankyouverymuch.
A note about husbands and fathers: in no way is this piece making your roles in the household small, not at all! All great moms need great pillars of strength and support. So thank you.
What other skills do you think moms have/ must have?
More from living