The Girl Who Wanted To Be A Boy

3 years ago

Disclaimer:  I realize this is a sensitive subject for many.  Please, understand this was not written with a heart of condemnation, but rather with a heart wanting to understand. 

This is JB.  JB was not your typical girly-girl.  In fact, JB was anything but a girly-girl.  JB played sports, got bloody knees, fished for crawdads in the creek with bacon and hot dogs.


JB didn’t wear girly clothes, opting instead for over-sized t-shirts and baggy shorts.  She had short hair that was rarely combed.  She didn’t play with dolls.  She played with mud and named ants.  She rode her bike all over the country where she grew up.

I cannot help you understand this hair.  

Sometimes, JB would even pull her ball cap down and lower her voice and pretend to be a boy.  On the playground at school, she could be found playing tackle football with the boys.


JB was not transgender.  JB was a tomboy.  JB was a little girl whose parents allowed her to be just that.  Her parents didn’t take her boyish tendencies as a cue to transform her into a boy.

JB’s parents allowed her to be a kid and to grow up.

What if JB’s parents had done those things?

JB would have missed out on this:


And this:


A video has been making the rounds lately of a beautiful little girl.  At the age of two, Ryland began saying that she wanted to be a boy.  She told her parents, "When this family dies, I'm going to cut my hair so I can be a boy."  

Maybe, she just wanted short hair?  Maybe, she would have rather played with Spiderman toys than Barbies?  Does a two-year-old know what it means to be a boy?

Ryland's parents cut her hair, dressed her in boy clothes, and began calling her "he".  Ryland is now the "poster child" for transgender kids.  


Obviously, I do not know this family.  It is clear from the video that these parents love their children and, like every parent, want to do what is right for their child.  But, what is the harm in waiting?

Changing genders is a huge decision with lifelong consequences.  What if this little girl approaches puberty and her body begins to change and she realizes she is more feminine than masculine?

What if it’s too late because she has already injected her body with hormones that will make that decision for her?  What if?

Is a six-year-old capable of making that decision?  What if she is right and in five years or ten years, she still feels she is in the wrong body?  Can she not still pursue it at that point?

But, what if she, what if they are all wrong?  What then?  What if?

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