Feminine Feminist

5 years ago

Bonjour, mes amours. Welcome to today's Vendredi Féministe aka Feminist Friday! (I'm on a French kick today for some reason.) Today's topic: The meaning of the word and where I stand in the Feminist spectrum from anti-feminist to radical extremists.



advocating social, political, legal, and economic rights for women equal to those of men.


Notice it says equal to those of men. Not above or below. Equal. I'm not the feminist who wants to bury all men underground and only bring them to the surface to reproduce. I just want women to have the same rights, opportunities, benefits, and chances that men enjoy. 
What comes to mind when you think of the word "Feminist"?
What comes to mind when you think of the word "Feminine"?

Check out the differences in the Google image search of "feminist" vs "feminine".

Why do these such similar words have to have such different connotations?

One of the world's greatest vollyeball players of all time, Karch Kiraly, spoke at one of my events in December. I've worked with him several times before through our events and he is one of the most respected players/coaches in all of volleyball. During one of our sessions he said the following quote:

“The female volleyball players look feminine, and yet they’re incredible athletes, and powerful, and they can be the combination that they deserve to be.” – Karch Kiraly

This completely sums up my fundamental believe on this topic. Women can be the combination they DESERVE to be: powerful (confident, independent) and feminine (beautiful).

Side note: My boss was emailing Karch (keep in mind - most influential person in vball) to tell him my opinions on this session and meant to type: "You are now Kali's personal hero" but actually typed: "You are not Kali's personal hero." #ultimatefail

Moving on...

Check out what was trending on Twitter the other day....

Of course, many people were using it to bash feminists, but a lot of people took to the hashtag to thank great women for paving the way before us. Pretty cool.

Just a joke, people!

In my opinion, there are always two extremes to every social issue, whether it be abortion, gay marriage, racial rights, feminism, etc.

Just because I am a "feminist" doesn't mean I am the hardcore radical who is bashing other's opinions. I like to think of myself somewhere in the middle. I recognize and acknowledge that women still have a ways to go to be truly equal to men in many aspects, but I think we have significantly closed the gap and are continuing to do so.

I also will always wear high heels, dresses, and rock being "feminine" until the day I die. You don't have to choose one or the other.

I want the women who are scared of the radicals and who just want to be a wife and mother to know that there is nothing wrong with that, and that they can still stand for female rights.

And I want the radical feminists out there to think about what really matters, and discover that tearing men down is not the way to build females up.


I hope you all have a fab-tastic weekend!

Au revoir, belles dames!


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