I have had the pleasure of watching Jessica grow from an adorable and entertaining toddler into a smart, beautiful and talented young woman. She is also one of my closest girl friends, because I'm lucky enough to have a friend list that's made up of amazing women of all ages.
Jessica and I spent some time together this past weekend, and when I dropped her off at home at the end of the night, she gave me a tour of her newly re-decorated bedroom. The moment I walked in the door, I was drawn to three glass jars on her book shelf. I asked if I could take a picture to share with you, because THIS is inspiring! (See above)
The "2013" jar is filled with good things that have happened to her every day. At the end of the year she'll have a huge pile of good things, and judging from the picture, she's gonna need more jars! Jessica is also saving to see an indie rock battle-of-the-bands event, but the jar I'm most in love with is the one on the right, labelled, "Feelings that should be forgotten." First off, if I had started this habit at the age of fourteen, I could have saved myself a great deal of pain. The idea of not only recognizing those negative feelings, but writing them down, crumpling them up and shoving them away, is what makes it wonderful.
Self-doubt is a bitch, and it can creep up on you at the most inconvenient times, like when you're on the verge of something really incredible. I've been a victim of my own self-doubt in the past, and I know it has stolen some of my finest moments from me before they were about to happen. Thoughts of "you're not smart enough for this" or "who's gonna listen to YOU!?" and the worst part is, I listened!
The best advice my mom has ever given me (and there have been some doozies!) is based on my own desire to start something big. Creative projects, new business ideas. I would tell her about other people who were making a career of the things I wanted to do, and she would say, "The only difference between you and them is they're doing it."
It's a powerful thought, and very true. Do you think successful people never had doubts or negative feelings creep into their minds? Do you believe all the stars magically aligned for them at the moment they were ready, and they easily and happily stepped in to the right place at the right time, catching success in their open and able arms?
Are you f*ing kidding me!?
Starting is always a risk, and it's scary... but it's incredible! When you put part of yourself out in to the world, you are opening yourself up to opportunities you never thought possible.
You also learn, rather quickly, how able and talented you really are!
Whether you think you're ready or not, just start right now. There is magic in action.