Ever wonder who really remembers your birthday? Ever wonder who has to be reminded? Well I did and I wanted to find out!!! So I decided to conduct a little personal experiment on my Facebook profile. Let me just say it turned out to be everything I thought it would be and more.
If you have a Facebook profile you know that when you log in it takes you to your news feed. On the top right side of the page it shows you whose birthday is on that day, along with any request you have. I see it everyday and I take the time to send a message to those who are celebrating their life. But it got me thinking....
Whose birthdays do I not need to be reminded of?
Who needs to be reminded of mine?
What would happen if we didn’t get that little reminder?
Would I be shocked by who remembered and who didn’t?
So of course these questions bugged me enough to find out. And I will tell you I am surprised by what I found out. Here's how it all went down.
On Monday, I decided to hide my birth date on my profile so no one could see it. Then I thought, well maybe I should change it to a month earlier so no one even gets a reminder. No one knew I was doing this except one person. I didn’t want anyone knowing what I was doing. I want the results to be honest. Yeah I lied when I changed the date but its part of the experiment.
Well yesterday was the day of the experiment, my birthday!!! Lets just say I was shocked with who remembered and who didn’t. Of course my family remembered. Well at least most did!!! But I can say I am guilty of forgetting too. Its not a crime to be absent minded every now and then. For me its a lot. I mean I have forgotten my mom's birthday before. I checked my profile every couple hours to see if any one had posted. By the end of the day I had received eleven post, six text messages and two phone calls. But two post came after someone that everyone I know knows posted. And those two post I can understand them not knowing my birthday. We just started becoming close friends. But there were four post and two texts that shocked and really made me feel special. One text came from a person I have known less than six months and the other came from my fiance's friend, whose birthday was Sunday. The four post came from two of my sisters I have never met, an old friend from school and my fiance's ex girlfriend who I love and miss dearly.
I should have known that this was going to be more to me than just a stupid experiment of curiosity. It spun into something I have experienced every couple of years since I turned 20. I call them light bulb moments. Moments that have stopped me and made think about myself and my life. The first light bulb moment came a month before my twentieth birthday when I found out I was pregnant with our son. It was the first time I thought about who I was and where I was going. That moment didn’t change me much but changed me a lot. If that makes any sense. The next moment came when I found myself crying on the electrical box outside our apartment on my twenty fifth birthday. Two weeks earlier I had given birth to our daughter and postpartum depression can be a bitch. Pardon my language but if you have had a child you know what I mean. But that moment made me think about who I was as a mother and woman. But I didn’t think about the kind of example I was being for my children. That moment came around twenty eight. I made some major changes to become a positive role model for my daughter and a positive image of a woman for my son. I was ready to become me for the first time in my life. And it turned out to be the best light bulb moment ever.
This experiment turned out to be one of those light bulb moments for me. I am not mad at those who forgot but I was hurt by it. It opened my eyes to things I was trying not to see but I knew where there in my face. I assumed people I have known and considered my best friends for thirteen years now to remember my birthday without being reminded by Facebook. Instead I learned not everyone is like me. Not everyone remembers and they may need to be reminded.
We all lead crazy and hectic lives but its the people in them that make it worth the fight and struggle we go through. The birth of those you consider important to you should be remembered and celebrated. But if you forget know that it might hurt someone that you mean a lot too. So take the time to write down all those special birth dates in your life and even if you forget someone know you can always give a belated birthday wish!!! And if someone you love forgets your birthday know that they lead just as crazy and hectic life as you and cut them some slack. Now hopefully I can change my birth date back!!! LOL
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