My best quality, in my opinion, is what a good friend I am. I am the friend you can call in the middle of the night, who will drop everything and be there for you. I remember birthdays and anniversaries and send cards. I babysit, listen, and care.
I hang on to friendships forever, as they are precious to me. My two closest friends have been in my life from the time we were 13 and 16, respectively. And these are friendships I cherish.
I'm learning as I get older that friendships don't always last forever. Most don't. People come in and out of your life with nary a care and some people don't even notice. I'm the type of person when a friendship starts to fade, I cling more, call more, email more, and when the silence on the other end continues it is deafening to me. I have to learn to let go, give up more easily. The person on the other end isn't a bad person; they are just busy, or maybe mad, or decided they are at a different point in their life. Who knows really?
I hang on to things that have long reached an expiration date for me as well, because at one point they were my friends and I feel like they should still be. Even people that hurt me or take advantage of me or I get nothing out of the relationship. I continue in the relationship just because at one point we were friends and that meant something, even though now it is harder and harder to figure out why exactly.
One of my close friends once said to me, "You know what your problem is, you think all friendships should last forever. And they don't. Some aren't supposed to. Some people are supposed to come into your life for a period of time and leave a mark and leave. And that's ok. There is nothing wrong with that."
I'm learning. I'm hoping it is a lesson that gets easier with time.
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