DYSFUNCTIONAL FRIENDS......GOOFY PEOPLE......FRIENDS OF FRIENDS...

DYSFUNCTIONAL FRIENDS…..GOOFY PEOPLE…..FRIENDS OF FRIENDS…..

I got to thinking this morning about people. Actually I got started thinking about FRIENDS OF FRIENDS in “Real Life…” I got thinking about my friends who have friends and what their friends are like…..And I simply could not find one of my friends that had all NON-dysfunctional friends….It seemed that most of my friends had friends that were simply a bit dysfunctional to say the least……From at least from where I am looking…..

And then there are GOOFY people….Well-meaning people who are simply a bit “not quite with the program….” I think goofy people overall are pretty good and pretty nice people….but they tend to “boondoggle” things that they get around…..In other words these goofy people either mess up the best laid plans as well as often do not know social protocol…..I have to say I do have a few of these people in my life as well…..I just have to avoid their boondoggling ways…..Goofy people don’t really bother me much….as long as I don’t let them interfere in my decisions or what I am doing….Some can actually be pretty good friends…..One just has to avoid their “mess ups….”

Then comes the truly dysfunctional friends…….Friends that are simply really “messed up….” I guess everyone to a degree has problems and perhaps in some ways are dysfunctional at certain levels……I think most people have their quirks and odd ball ways of doing things…..That is a given….but DYSFUNCTION goes a bit further….It is usually problems that are more significant…..These friends truly can affect our lives when we get up close and personal….

I don’t think  of most people as perfect….Actually I don’t have any perfect friends….but I have some great friends….I have learned to navigate past a lot of my friend’s faults…..their quirks….their oddball ways……Their dysfunctions I simply try to avoid all together…..If one truly has a major dysfunction I most often tend to step way back….for most dysfunctions I cannot solve for them…..Most true dysfunctions are caused by choice behaviors in my opinion….Not always...but mostly…….

I simply realize that most people have some kind of issue in life….And if I am to have friends I have to realize that I simply have to learn to navigate past dysfunctions and choose what things I can accept and can’t accept…..Personal choice. We are all different……and so our choices what works for us and what doesn’t is simply a personal choice…..

I realize I am likely to have my little things I do as well that probably drive some of my friends “nuts” too…..I am sure glad they accept me as I am….I guess that is what friends are for……Love each other for who they are rather than who we think they should be…..

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