DOORMATS....PEOPLE PLEASERS...QUIT WASTING TIME ON PEOPLE.....WHO WON'T "WASTE" TIME ON YOU.....

DOORMATS.....Those are people who let other people walk all over them...Doormats are meant to wipe our feet on....Doormats are not meant to be people.....Unfortuantely too many people either walk all over other people or they get walked all over on.....This is most often the result of how a person has taught other people how they want to be treated.....

People Pleasers are people who simply run around trying to please other people at the continual expense of not pleasing themselves at the same time......It is great to be nice to other people, help other people, and help create happiness in others lives. That is all good....What is not good is when we sacrifice our own happiness consistently day in and day out to please another person...especially one who has no desire to please us....

Too often what I see are people trying to please others who simply would not do anything for them in return....The People Pleasers are running around trying to make everyone else happy when no one indeed is concerned about their happiness....Often the ones on the receiving end complain about what is given.....lacking gratitude as well.....

Giving overall should be an exchange.....Sometimes we do give to others who are unable to give back to us....but the key here is "Would they give back to us if they were in the position that they could...?" That is pretty much how I judge whether to give or not give. I believe in giving from the heart....but I want to make sure I am not being taken advantage of either....

Trying to friend someone who really doesn't care one way or the other whether they are friends with you is usually a waste of time and likely to not go anywhere......Finding people who want to be our friends, want to give back to us in fair exchange, and grateful for what we do for them is key to healthy relationships in my opinion....

I love great relationships....but I do not waste time on people who would  not "waste" their time on me.....I seek out healthy, balanced, and loving relationships.....After all, a happy life is also a balanced life.....one that involves give and take......

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