Today, that’s to Tina Price-Johnson, I read something amazing by Soraya Chemaly. I liked her blog so much I joined Tumblr just to follow her. (Now, I have a blog on Tumblr. I feel very modern; like a real hep cat.)
The gist of Saroya Chemaly’s post was that our culture and many others train people (men and women both) to assume women are lying/liars:
“No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, in doctor's’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.”
This shit right here is the underlying reason horrible person Peggy Holland Grable and her equally horrible sister Stephani Holland Brower (see my last couple of posts for the backstory if needed) called an abuse survivor a liar. She was a woman. Her word, her account, her honesty were all in doubt because she had a vagina. Horrible person Peggy Holland Grable and her equally horrible sister Stephani Holland Brower couldn’t remember seeing any evidence of abuse 40 years ago; therefore, in spite of court records to back the survivor up, they decided to publically declare her a liar on her own Facebook page. They accused her of seeking attention (WTF? Do they think people get positive attention when we don’t keep our abuse quiet? Because that is so damn ignorant I could almost pity horrible person Peggy Holland Grable and her equally horrible sister Stephani Holland Brower).
This shit right here is the reason Dylan Farrow’s memory of her own sexual assault by Woody Allen is called into question by asshat rape apologists. This shit right here is the reason why most rapes and sexual assaults are not reported to the police “(an average of 60% of assaults in the last five years were not reported). Those rapists, of course, will never spend a day in prison. But even when the crime is reported, it is unlike to lead to an arrest and prosecution. Factoring in unreported rapes, only about 3% of rapists will ever serve a day in prison.” This shit right here is why that far-right pander and sexual harasser Clarence Thomas is on the bench of the Supreme Court; as a black woman, Anita Hill’s credibility wasn’t good enough.
I have had enough of this shit.
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