Toxic people sap your energy and leave you depleted, feeling bad, angry, doubting of yourself.
Toxic people do not respect you, your truth, your will, your feelings.
They do not honor you.
Toxic people can destroy your self-esteem, your self-confidence, the trust in yourself, in your perceptions, in your truth. They can cause you self-anger, anger, powerlessness, self-harm. They can make you feel guilty, bad, wrong, the cause of all problems. They can prevent your freedom, they can prevent your choice, they can prevent you from being you, they can prevent you from doing what you want. They can destroy your dreams, they can destroy you.
They are the enemy of wellbeing, of happiness, of success, of abundance.
The problem is that many people do not know that those behaviors are toxic. They just put up with them as ‘normal’, and they feel bad.
This is in fact the first reason why so many people put up with toxic behaviors, with bullying, with abuse:
IT IS BECAUSE THEY DO NOT KNOW THAT THOSE BEHAVIORS ARE NOT OK.
Also, we are programmed to have toxic people in our lives.
Because spiritual beliefs program people to put up, to tolerate, to look at the positive, to be kind, to be understanding, to be caring or compassionate, to try to help the ‘difficult people’, etc.
ALL THESE SPIRITUAL BELIEFS ARE LIES WHEN IT COMES TO DEALING WITH TOXIC, BULLYING OR ABUSIVE PEOPLE.
There is nothing enlightened in being treated badly, NOTHING.
THE DIVINE WANTS YOU TO BE TREATED WELL, ALWAYS.
Also, when dealing with ‘normal’ people, those spiritual beliefs would just create limitations. When a person is aligned with their true self, with who they truly are, they are Infinite Beings and they automatically know the best way to deal with things, however that might be.
There are many other things that can make a person trapped in toxic relationships, including cultural beliefs, societal beliefs, a wanting approval of the person, the natural tendency of the person to be kind, nice, caring, compassionate, believing to other people’s beliefs or opinions, justifying other people, wanting to be non-judgmental to the point of cutting off one’s awareness, and many more.
Toxic people can be found in all areas: in families, relationships, workplaces, with friends, flat-shares, communities, etc.
And all the suggestions we might have been given like 'be assertive', 'say no', 'speak your truth', 'put up boundaries', will NOT work with toxic people.
We need to work from a Higher level, WE NEED TO WORK FROM AN ENERGETIC LEVEL.
IF WE HAVE TOXIC PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES, WE HAVE ATTRACTED THEM.
This means there is something in us that resonates with them and unless we free ourselves from those vibrations/patterns/beliefs, we will keep attracting toxic people, just in different bodies.
There are also other things we need to do to free from toxic people.
So, the questions is:
do you have toxic people in your life?
And, is now the time for you to finally be loved and honored for the magnificent being you truly be?
copyright 2014 Piercarla Garusi – all rights reserved
Piercarla Garusi is a life coach and visual artist. Her coaching work is now focused on helping people deal and free from toxic people and all the damages that they have caused them. It is first of all about awareness and then deal with everything that is causing them to be treated badly, to be trapped and not to be loved and honored for who they are. Piercarla can help you with individual coaching and the upcoming seminars ’Who Are the People You Are Allowing in Your Life?’. More information can be found on http://pgcoaching.co.uk/WhoArethePeopleYouAreAllowinginYourLife.html and on the website www.pgcoaching.co.uk. You can find information on her paintings from Higher Consciousness for Social Evolution on www.piercarla-paintings.co.uk.
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