Blog Guilt {3 things to tell youself when you just don't have the time}

3 years ago
Blog Guilt {3 things to tell youself when you just don't have the time} - SelfBinding Retrospect by Alanna Rusnak

I have found myself struggling to fit in the time to blog recently. We have been so busy. Summer is crazy. I am exhausted. Evening comes and all I want to do is catch up on True Blood and eat peanuts.

Blogger's Guilt is a funny thing. {Ridiculous actually, if you're like me and aren't doing it to feed your family.} Still, I've built up a following of faithful readers and I feel this profound obligation to continue to provide them with the content they've come to expect. Plus it's fun. I really like it. It fulfills some unnamed need within me.
But when life and busy take over there are three things I tell myself to quell those feelings of guilt.
1. I am not my blog. I am a whole person without it. I am not defined by what and when I post. My experiences are vibrant and valuable and self-shaping and they are mine forever whether I write about them or not. I could stop blogging and continue living. I could stop blogging and be as completely myself as I was before. I blog because I want to. I blog when I want to. Life happens and I want to be present in it. If that means blogging takes a space of lesser priority for a season, that's okay because I AM NOT MY BLOG.
2. Quality trumps quantity.  There are everyday bloggers that blow my mind. I know how hard that is and I only attempted it for one month last November. There are multiple-times-a-day bloggers which I generally find obnoxious {unless you're Chuck Wendig because basically anything he writes is gold}. I would rather write out of inspiration than a forced la-di-da...this-is-what-I-had-for-lunch-today kind of way. Sometimes this means I have something to share every day. Sometimes this mean a whole week or more might go by and that's okay because QUALITY TRUMPS QUANTITY.
3. Being missed is a blessing. My last post was 10 days ago. TEN DAYS!!! I've been getting personal emails and messages from readers asking me if I'm okay and letting me know that they're missing my blogs. How AMAZING is that?!?! It reaffirms that what is fun for me is also fun for others and that's something I am cherishing. Sometimes a little break is just what you need to reignite the fires and get the ball rolling again. Absence makes the heart grow fonder which is wonderful because BEING MISSED IS A BLESSING!
Remember that everything beyond obligation should be something that makes you happy. It should not be forced. It should not add to any burdens. Live your dreams. Follow your heart. Seek joy.

Alanna Rusnak lives in Southwestern Ontario with her husband, three children, and a cat she's trying hard not to love; blogging the extraordinary at SelfBinding Retrospect

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