WHERE WILL LIFE TAKE US….When Things Happen….
Sometimes we simply do not know where life will take us….Sure, we can set a great plan in motion….Do all the right things…..and yet, there are no for sure bets in life…..I like to think that life will ultimately work out in our best interests if we keep being persistent and making great decisions…..Life is about decisions….one right after the other….
Not all opportunities are equal….Some opportunities simply should be avoided. They may be opportunities but are simply not right for our lives or perhaps not a good opportunity…..We have to carefully examine many opportunities to see if they are the right ones for our lives……Opportunities can come in many shapes and sizes….and just like a dress size…One size does not necessarily fit all…
Sometimes a monkey wrench can get thrown into life’s best plans. That is simply life…..Sometimes we can be doing everything right and yet things will get messed up….at no fault of our own. We simply cannot control all the variables in life. We can control some through our decisions…..but many are not within our realm of decisions…..
What happens when we have done everything right and things get messed up….by someone else….or something else? There is no easy answer…..Sometimes we just have to “wing” it and get ourselves back on track the very best we can…..Sometimes there is no clear way through a problem that we can see at the moment….We simply have to take one step at a time through all of the uncertainties that mess ups can create in our lives….
I don’t think there are very many people who have lived any length of time who haven’t experienced a mess up caused by someone else directly. Great plans got messed up……Even the weather can mess up our plans….Not all of life is entirely predictable……
I have seen marriages fall apart due to one spouse who messed up at no fault of the other spouse…..I have seen businesses collapse that most of the people were doing great jobs but it only took one or two to make a mess of things…..A great investment turns South due to unforeseen circumstances…….There simply is no end to 3rd party mess ups of the best laid plans of others……
How does one deal with things like this when they happen…..? There is simply not an easy answer….or even a complete answer….Because when things happen that are unforeseen we often have to take time to assimilate what just happened…..Shock is usually the first thing that happens to us….Good decisions are not usually made when we feel “numb….” It isn’t till after all the information has come through that most good decisions can be made. And even at that sometimes it is not about good decisions….It is about picking up the pieces…..
One thing for sure is when Mess Ups to Best Laid Plans occur…..we simply have to get through it the very best we can……Falling apart is always an option but not a very good one…..It usually doesn’t solve much….although inwardly we may feel like we are falling apart during times like these……We simply have to get through them….no matter how long it takes……Keeping in mind that life will give us good things along the way….and we must stay open to all that is wonderful out in the world and give ourselves time to adjust to what we lost……Life is big….There will always be more opportunities…..often different from the last….
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