Are You Being Poisoned?

4 years ago
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Are You Being Poisoned?

There are many ways to be poisoned.

  1. You could ingest toxic chemicals.

  2. You could be bitten by a venomous spider or snake.

  3. You could be eating foods that are slowly poisoning you.

  4. You could have people in your life who are not good for you.

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The last one will be my topic today. Are the people in your life poisoning you?

There are several types of "bad for you" people.

  1. The first is the everything is the "anti-silver lining": No matter what happens, it's always bad. They get a promotion, but they hate their job. They go on vacation but only talk about the dirty house they came home to. They get 97% on a test, but it's not 100%. They find the one rain drop in the sky and it's now a monsoon.

  2. Next comes "the my life is better." Congratulations, you got engaged -- but your story isn't very romantic, is it? Mine on the other hand was wildly romantic and better than any other story ever.

  3. My favorite is the "fun sucker": Similar to the anti-silver lining person, this person has the uncanny ability to take the most awesome amazing moment and drain every ounce of joy right out of it.

It's not always easy to get these people out of your life, especially when they are coworkers and family, but you can limit your exposure to them as much as possible. Having people like this in your daily life will put a strain on your mental, emotional and physical health.

I am  not advocating you go around only looking at puppies and rainbows ... sometimes life is hard and sad, but these people make it worse with their unsupportive and negative attitude.

Instead, you should surround yourself with the following four types of people.

  1. The Helper: Protects you when you are vulnerable and likewise your wealth, is a refuge when you are afraid, and in various tasks provides double what is requested.

  2. The Enduring Friend: Telling you secrets, guarding your own secrets closely, not abandoning you in misfortune, and even fighting for you.

  3. The Mentor: Restraining you from wrongdoing, guiding you toward good actions, telling you what you ought to know, and showing you the path to productive life.

  4. The Compassionate Friend: Not rejoicing in your misfortune, delighting in your good fortune, preventing others from speaking ill of you, and encouraging others who praise your good qualities.

In addition to surrounding yourself with these people, you should also become them to the different people in your life.

Who in your life can you be The Helper? The Enduring Friend? The Mentor? The Compassionate Friend?