That's right, sometimes I don't comment on others' blogs. Sometimes I want to comment and then end up distracted and forget. Sometimes I intend to go back and make a comment. Sometimes I don't want to seem eager, whatever that means, so I don't comment.
There are definitely times that I do want to comment. I even try to comment. But, some bloggers aren't set up in such a way that I can comment comfortably. What do I mean. Well, quite simply some bloggers only allow comments through certain social media platforms.
Honestly, this is frustrating. It's frustrating to me because I feel limited. It's also frustrating because when I do want to and attempt to comment and then can't I feel used. Yep, I said it. I feel used when I'm not allowed to comment in a way that's comfortable.
I know, I'm quite new at this whole blogging thing. But, I want people to feel accepted and respected and honored for visiting my blog. This is why I allow anyone to comment. Also why I moderate new commenters. I don't want ugly spread on this blog (for the record, no ugly has happened). There's quite enough ugly out here in the world.
Being a mother, I am already pretty used and abused. Baby uses me for food, comfort, sleep, warmth, play, cleanliness. All mothers are used these same ways. It doesn't feel good to be used all the time. This is why it's important to have outlets, to feel part of something else, to connect to other adults. My inability to comment on blogs keeps me from sharing the importance of that connection and community with others. There are many bloggers who I get interested in, but if I can't comment I move on. This is a disservice. At least that's what I think. It's a disservice to those individual bloggers and it's a disservice to me. Because if I'm going to feel used I'm not going to keep willingly visiting, even if it's good writing.
Truthfully, I like commenting. I like sharing thoughts and ideas. I like giving kudos to the next person. I want to keep doing that. So, please don't limit my ability to comment. Please don't force me to comment in one platform or another. Please, just give me the option to comment my way. I promise I'll not be ugly and I'll say something either thoughtful or nice.
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