After all these years, What have we learned?

7 years ago
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Although the last 12 months have been some of the toughest months of my life, and full of trials I hope to never repeat, I must admit to learning a few things about life, people & myself.

There were good and bad times. I had some really painful moments and moments of pure joy. Most of my life has been a roller coaster of emotions and experiences that I have tried to learn from.

So, after 40 years, what do I know for sure? What can I take away from every moment good or bad, and turn into a strength?

The Question is, What have I REALLY learned about myself and about Life? Here's what I came up with:

I've learned –
that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned -
that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned -
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned -
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned -
that it's a lot easier to react than it is to stop and think.

I've learned -
that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned -
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned -
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned -
real heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned - that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned - that my 2 sisters, my brother and I can do anything or nothing and still have the best time.

I've learned -
that sometimes people get angry. We have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give you the right to be cruel.

I've learned –
that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned -
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned - Families aren't biological.

I've learned -
that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned -
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned -
that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned -
that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned -
that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned -
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned -
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

What have you learned?

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