Time away from my friends. Energy just to make sure I shared the post on every single marketing platform. Emotions like excitement from a post well received, sadness from rejection on contributor opportunities, joy from hitting a new milestone, anger from troll-like comments. Love for knowing I was connecting with people and possibly helping them.
To be honest the hardest part has been the amount of time blogging takes. While I believe it's worth it, it was a huge adjustment.
When you join the blogger community you fall in love! Everyone (for the most part) is so supportive, offering guidance and a cyber ear. You hear a lot about how if you want to succeed you need a support system, and boy, is that true!
It was great for me finding my blogging tribe but what about my real world tribe? I have a great group of friends who, to be honest, I know I've been slightly less available for since starting my blogging journey. Here are some things I think most bloggers would agree that we wish our non-blogger friends knew.It takes a lot of time
I'm not blowing you off when I say "I need to work on my blog." Running a successful blog in 21st century is a real job. We don't go home at night, write about our day, press publish and watch the traffic (and passive income) roll in.
We create posting schedules, write, rewrite and edit like crazy. We meticulously market each post on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Google+, Medium and whereever we can. We spend formally lazy Sunday afternoon watching Webinars about growing our brand and using Pinterest effectively.
We are sending out emails to editors trying to get posts published on larger platforms.
(Shout out to my blogosphere role model and BFF Melyssa Griffin at The Nectar Collective for educating me constantly on this crazy amazing community).
We would love to go to that last-minute Happy Hour after work with you, but we promised that editor a perfect draft first thing in the morning (and let me tell you drunk blogging rarely results in success). I would love to go to Sunday Funday every Sunday but I have a newsletter to write. No matter how much we work there is always more to be done or more we could do.I can't commit to writing for a site just because "It's cool."
Some opportunities are great. Some opportunities pay, which is even better. When blogging, you often have to pay your dues. I've written for money and also for publicity. So while you may think my dream would be to see my name on "that" website, it isn't always worth it.
If I could just send over something I thought was a good fit and know it would be published, that would be one thing. But having an editor reach out to you, then have to go back and forth for 5 drafts, to have their boss ultimately past is a waste of time (we could have gone to Happy Hour).
Most bloggers are working towards blogging or freelancing full-time so every moment we spend is valuable. You wouldn't go to work for free, would you? We have to know there is a reward for the work.It's not all sunshine and rainbows
I have an alarm on my phone for 10:30 p.m. Sunday-Thursday to tell me to turn off my laptop for the night... that almost always gets ignored.
Most Mondays and Thursdays I grab my laptop as soon as a wake up (early) to publish and promote that day's post.
Sometimes I want to quit and give up because I'm so tired.
Sometimes I get paid less money than I spend on my water bill for an article I spent hours perfecting.
Sometimes people on social media or comment sections are unnecessarily cruel.
Sometimes I just want to go to Happy Hour and cry to Michelle about whatever thing is going on that week and stressing me out, but I have a deadline or a webinar or mastermind group meeting.
I work all day then I go home and work all night. I love it, but it's a lot to balance.Our office is anywhere and everywhere
I have written or done blog related activities in the following:
- A hookah bar
- A coffee shop
- The airport
- A bar
- In my car on lunch
- and the list goes on and on.
I have a work nook in my apartment, but sometimes you need a change of scenery to get the creative juices flowing (and to stop yourself from watching another random Netflix movie with that really cute guy from that one show). If you see me at Starbucks by myself, I'm working. I'm not being anti-social, I promise.I don't know Zooey Deschanel
I've been fortunate enough to become a HelloGiggles contributor. The New Girl herself even shared one of my posts on Facebook. (Okay, I'm bragging because it was this huge "I made it" moment for me. Guess what? I didn't totally make it yet.) But I have never had conversation with her. Well, minus when I talk back to Jessica Day, watching New Girl.
I can't get you free stuff (sorry). I get samples of things to try and honestly review (which I'll admit is awesome). It takes time just like anything else I do for my business.I don't spend my whole "work time" on social media because there is an app for that.
I know you see me posting at least once an hour on Twitter, but I assure you I'm not ignoring your texts to see what the cast of Grey's Anatomy is tweeting. Look in the corner of that tweet. I use a social media app to keep myself present on social media. I spend about 15 minutes each night scheduling a day's worth of posts in order to stay in front of people and on people's minds. Everything is strategic.Just because I built my blog doesn't mean I'll know how to hack your ex-boyfriend's email account
I am no tech genius. I spend many nights chatting with Siteground's support staff asking, "Why is my website doing (or not doing) this?"
There are some awesome super user-friendly places to build your blog. While I like to think I know more than the average bear about maneuvering the world-wide web, I'll be the first to tell you that when it comes to HTML and cyber semantics I am a bit of a dodo. Most of the awesome things I've been able to do on my site are thanks to tech support and Google.We really appreciate your support
Every time my best friend Karen shares one of my posts on Facebook, or my friend Bea asks, "How come I'm not on your blog," I feel so loved. When in casual conversation someone says, "Oh I read your blog on ___________, it was hilarious," I love it.
My blog really took off when I started to share it with the people I love, who love me. We appreciate that while you may not understand why it takes up so much time, you read it and support us anyway. Thank you to everyone who has supported my blog business and freelance career over the past year. I love you so much!
What are some things you wish you non-blogger friends knew?
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