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What separates those who succeed from those who simply long for success? Are they born with success in their genes? Do they get all the lucky breaks? Or does achievement have more to do with what they – and you -- bring into each new situation? If you believe you make the difference, commit to these six strategies. All in If you want more, give more. Decide you’re “all in” and show up every day “ready to play” or at least practice. If there’s an opportunity you want, put yourself into a position to gain it, whether it’s showing up at a singles function so you can meet the right person or developing your relationship with the managers in your company who can select you for the next available promotion. The more you succeed, the more you’ll succeed as every achievement provides the emotional rush you need to propel your forward moment. Fuel yourself If you want high achievement, fuel yourself by celebrating every achievement, no matter how small. Those who wait until they’ve secured the “big win” starve themselves of the fuel needed to keep going. Similarly, find what’s right about what’s happening today. Stephen Stills once sang, “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with.” If you can’t find a job you love, love at least some part of the job you have. Never give up Never throw in the towel and say you need to step out of the game. If you want success, quitting isn’t an option. Don’t let emotional roadblocks conquer you but consider them as an opportunity to dig deeper into your resolve and decide how you’ll overcome them. Turn goals to plans We all have dreams. High achievers act. So decide what you want, why it’s important to you and what’s your first step. Then, take it, even if it’s small. After all, who do you think has the most likelihood of losing weight, someone who can only walk a block, but walks a block every day until she can walk two blocks and continues to increase her walking daily, or someone who tries running a mile and then avoids running on rainy days or when she feels tired? Ask yourself the right questions What questions do you ask yourself? “Why did this happen?;” “Why did I make a mess of this?” and “Why can’t I catch a break?” or “What can I learn?” and “How can I turn this around?” Learn to ask yourself strengthening rather than weakening questions. Don’t ask yourself if you’re good enough to achieve what you want, as this questions sucks the energy and motivation out of you. Instead ask “how will I make this happen?” and “what’s the first step?” Then find those answers. Reassess how you view failure If you take risks, you’ll occasionally fail. So what? Failure teaches you what you need to learn to do something better. Seen in this light, failure becomes your path toward success. After all, life is the classroom that gives you tests before it shares the lesson. Do you want high achievement? You can have it. © 2017, Lynne Curry. If you have a career questions you’d like Lynne to answer, write her @ firstname.lastname@example.org
. Lynne is an executive coach and author of Beating the Workplace Bully, AMACOM & Solutions. You can follow Lynne through her other posts on sheknows.com, via www.workplacecoachblog.com
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