1. Travel more. Travelling makes you appreciate life more; the more you see and experience new things and places, the more you appreciate being alive. You see the beauty of nature, and you feel closer to your Maker like never before. You get to release stress, you worry less, you become a happier person, and you see things from a different perspective. You realize it's a beautiful world we live in, and it's amazing to be granted the gift of life. Although in my defense, I had to put off travelling because I was helping in the house expenses and my sibs' education, I still could have allotted a budget for mini-vacations. Oh, well. I think the long wait made my travelling more exciting now that I get to do it.
2. Start investing early. I've only learned about investing in the stock market when I was 27. And I didn't even start investing then! Now, when I look at my portfolio and see how my investment has grown in only a few years with only a meager starting amount, I think about the years I've wasted not investing.
3. Time is an illusion. When I was younger, it always felt like I had my whole life ahead of me. So, I kept on procrastinating; putting off reading that book I've always wanted to read, not dropping a message to a friend I haven't seen or talked to for a long time, not exercising daily, not saving and investing, not going out. Now, I look back and I realized I've wasted so much time planning and not acting.
4. Friends come and go. You may feel a certain connection with some people and think you could be friends forever. Truth is, if you're not losing friends you're not growing up. When you feel like the friendship is not helping you grow anymore, you're not learning anything new, or it's holding you back, know that it's normal. Also, you'll find out some people also change, and feel like you don't belong in their world anymore. It's either you've outgrown them, or they've outgrown you. Either way, it's time to let go.
5. It's okay to be the odd one out . When you're young, people your age call partying cool and not partying boring. In my head though, it's the other way around. Still, majority wins so you go out and hang out as you're expected. But, it's okay to be the odd one out. Don't be afraid to be different. Celebrate your uniqueness.
Why fit in when you were born to stand out?
6. You'll get your heart broken. Maybe once, maybe twice. It's all part of the package. Only a very few are lucky enough to end up with their first love. Most mortals will have to meet a few wrong people before they meet the right one for them.
7. It's never too late to pursue a passion or change career path
. If you're not happy with what you do anymore, it's never too late to shift. If you're itching to pursue something you've always wanted, don't delay it. There's a reason why that dream or passion has been planted in your heart. Use it to bless the world.
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
8. Take more risks. When you're young, you have more opportunities to fail. More opportunities to fail means more opportunities to learn. More opportunities to learn is more opportunities to succeed. Plus, you become wiser and stronger in the process.
9. You can't change a person or save the whole world in one go
. If there's one thing I've learned at The Feast
, it's that you can't change a person. That's God's job. Your job is to accept and love them for who they are. The change will follow. If they're sucking out your energy, learn to love them from a distance.
You'll go crazy trying to save the world. It's frustrating! What you can do is try to save one person at a time. How? Be a friend. Listen. Empathize. Share your time. Let them feel they matter. Never underestimate the power of kindness.
Don't try to change people; Love them so that they will learn to love themselves - and desire to change.
If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth.
---Anthony de Mello
10. Dance, run, hike, try something new, go out of your comfort zone while you still can. While you still have the stamina, the energy and the time, do something that you think you'll never be able to do.
11. People you know and care about will die. That's the hard truth. We can't live forever. Cherish the people around you, show them you care, and never miss an opportunity to affirm. Words are powerful, and it's impact can resonate forever.
12. Haters gonna hate. It's not what you do, it's not what you say, it's how you affect them. And how you affect them is not your call.
How you treat others is a direct extension of how you feel about yourself, and when you try to make someone else feel bad or embarrassed of who they are, it’s deplorable. A happy, secure person wants to share their light.
13. Just because you're a woman doesn't mean you have to be submissive. Just because you're a guy doesn't mean you have to act like a jerk. Don't follow what the society dictates. Don't get stereotyped.
14. Sleep! I used to hate sleeping. Now when I have to stay up late or wake up extra early for work or other activities and see "kids" just hanging out, I shake my head and think someday they'll look back and feel exactly how I'm feeling---yearning for sleep.
15. Vegetable really is your friend. I hated, loathed, detested, despised vegetables when I was younger. Now, I try so hard to keep a balance diet.
16. It's not the end of the world. When you make a mistake then, you instantly feel discouraged. When you look back now you realize how naive and silly you once were.
17. You teach people how to treat you. No, being kind and considerate won't always get people to respect you. Most of the time, you'll get pushed over and abused. Keep a balance, know when it's time to say no.
18. You'll need a team to help you get to where you want to be. Don't discriminate, but be deliberate in choosing who you spend most of your time with.
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
You are the same today as you'll be in five years except for two things: the books you read and the people you meet.
19. Don't work hard, work smart. Need I say more?
20. Choose your battle. Don't stay angry on people that don't even deserve your attention and time. Don't linger in the past and drive yourself crazy in what-could-have-beens and what ifs. Don't sweat the small stuff. Don't hurt people intentionally. And never engage in useless arguments.
21. Forgive and let go. Forgive your offender. Forgive yourself for doing your part in what happened. Stop berating yourself. Stop asking the other person to give you back what you lost. Stop obsessing over what already occurred. It's a waste of time and energy.
Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.
It's not that I'm remorseful. I wouldn't be who I am today if not for those mistakes I made. I just wish I knew better so I could have made better decisions.
When I see careless young people now, I thank God that I know better. And hope that they will learn the lessons I've learned sooner. It'll save them a lot of time and heartache.
This post was first published on Bared My Soul