You NEED to get PERFECT stat....Everyone else seems to be or......

5 years ago

Pictures can be SO very misleading. Oh look - they are the PERFECT family. (um. NOT).



Is anyone else tired of seeing "perfect" on blogs, facebook status', twitter?

Or in churches?? Or in how people talk about parenting?

I am.

Why do people think 'being perfect" is so very  important?

Being "perfect is NOT fun. I should know because I thought being perfect was "IT" in my 20's and into my early 30's.  I, essentially, was a walking facade of sorts.

Sure, I had 'moments' of transparency now and then but, overall, I was not the real "Andrea" or maybe I didn't know who she was. Regardless, I wanted to be "perfect".



But...WOW...look at these "perfect family pictures"!

We appear to have it ALL together.

We appear to have no health issues, no confusion in parenting, we are ALL smiles, we look like we just IN LOVE with each other.

We, sorta [excuse me for a moment as I roll my eyes] ,  look "perfect".

Dang Aren't we amazing? There pictures demonstrate that. No faults, flaws, no major mental health issues, no massive medical bills, no extensive and long-tem extended family issues, no kids with puberty who may not live to see 18 (;)....

Nope. Perfect...Wanna see more 'perfect'....





 Chase joined an "Ultimate Frisbee Club"....He is PERFECT at it! He scores every game and the coach is SO SO SO happy to have him on the team.
 (Aven's first sleepover with her bestie, Tessa!) See it was PERFECT.
 These 2 girls are even SO bright. They are in honor class, colleges are already scouting them, and they taught themselves how to read. PERFECT!  :)

Do you get my point?

Pictures, conversations, even clothes people wear can be misleading. 
They can make the one observing them seem inadequate sometimes.

People can also feel exceptionally inadequate if they are talking to someone who seems to have it "all together'.

I am here to say: 

NO One.




I do not care how much money you have, how many nannies you employ, how many best friends and support you have, nor how secure your job is....

We are ALL imperfect. is so much easier to hide behind the wall of "WHAT? Oh me? Oh I am absolutely great!!"
(I am not saying to not take great picture, have great conversation, where cute clothes...I am saying to not hide behind them. Be true to who you are and imperfections that you have.) 

Instead of, "Well, it's been a rough season. I hope we come out of it soon.

Before I "found my transparency" would NEVER have said the latter statement.

NOW, I am the latter statement!

Let's blow it idea of "perfection" out of our lives you guys.....

Let's just be WHO WE ARE...which is messed up! 

Everyone is 'messed up' in one way or another...and if you are thinking, "No, I really have no area in my life that is 'messed up'" then you just proved my point. 

We are creatures of imperfection. 

And it's okay to say that....because we are ALL messed up. 
Don't let thoughts that play the "PERFECT GAME" get to you.
They are hiding thing - just like I used to do.
Transparency is freeing and easier!
I love you guys...
a completely imperfect to Wife, Momma, and everyone else
PS I wrote this REALLY fast b/c it has been in my head for awhile and just spilling out. If it doesn't flow.....tell me ;)
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