Why are you here?

5 years ago

 

"A 20-something went into a physician's office."  This might be the start of a joke, but as a Tiger Mother, I did not find the punch line amusing.  For approximately 6 years my daughter has struggled with depression and anxiety.  It makes a mother's heart heavy to see her child -- once bright and bubbly, laughing and smiling with a sunny outlook -- becomes withdrawn, gray, flat.  It hurts.  But crying doesn't solve shit like this.  At 20, she had outgrown her trusted and caring pediatrician and we needed to transition her to a new physician.

We found a female physician who looked good on paper, was in our insurance plan, and 10 minutes from home.  My big girl goes on her own for her first appointment.  Despite feeling significant anxiety most of her waking hours and my offer to go with her, she feels she needs to do this herself.  I concede, and point out that the physician has been sent my girl's medical records and so has all she needs to know regarding recent treatment for anxiety and depression, full history, other physician's notes, etc.  

Daughter comes home from appointment upset, beaten down.  New doc was critical of new patient.  For example:  "why did you leave college?  Why didn't you go to student center and get help?  What kind of future are you going to have if you don't go to college?  And why aren't you exercising?  There is no excuse for not exercising at your age."   Daughter already feeling like shit about her struggles and now feels worse.  Does new doc really think this is helpful?!

The clincher:  I ask, did she refill your depression/anxiety Rx at least?  No.  When my girl meets the new doc and is asked "why are you here", daughter states "to get help for my depression" and explains her history and current prescriptions which need to be refilled.  The new doc sends my girl away with no refill of her medications.  "You need to see a psychiatrist."  

This is boggling.  Anyone with an M.D. can write a script for an anti-depressant and/or hand out samples like candy.  My girl specifically stated her issue when asked why she was there, and had a medical chart confirming the situation.  Yet, she was sent away empty handed and more anxious then when she arrived.  Insulted first, and then she was sent away with her medical issue left untreated.  

Today a bill came from the physician for $281.  I will be writing a letter explaining why I will not be paying.  I will offer to discuss the matter in person or by phone.  How do you not treat someone with a history of depression who says she needs help and because of the wait to see new doc needs her Rx refilled?  How does the new doc ignore the medical chart straight from the office of another physician in the same organization confirming the diagnosis and treatment?  The new doc did not need to think, only act versus criticizing and turning my girl out on the street.  Why would the physician behave this way?  From what I can tell, no treatment was provided and yet we're being billed $281?  Only in America?

Love,

Your Unsolicited Life Coach

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