Sex after menopause? Some experts will tell you it’s a downhill ride of lower sex drive and dried up hormones. Sorry, I'm not buying it. I happen to know there are plenty of 50-plus women who are still rocking it!
How is it possible that sex gets better after menopause?
For starters, you’re not bothered by your period any longer. You’re not bothered by kids in the house all the time. You can have sex in any room in the house. You can have the greatest sex of your life!
Sex in your 40's can be wonderful, but you may still be making school lunches, wiping noses, juggling a career, and trying to avoid pregnancy. Once you’re menopausal, that worry is gone. Think about it—no tampons, pads, pills, diaphragms, IUDs, or condoms . What could be better?
The years leading up to menopause can still be an anxiety point for many women because you can still get pregnant.
After 50, your kids aren't likely to be interrupting any bedroom sessions or waking you up in the middle of the night. Most menopausal women who are mothers, are usually no longer the classic soccer mom. Children are more independent, and the couple has more time for themselves and their relationship. Think Mrs. Robinson in The Graduate.
Older women know what they want in the bedroom and don’t have to be shy about it.
Menopause is a very defining time for most women, many of whom realize that they have put their sexuality on the back burner for way too long, and if they don’t use it, they will lose it for good. There’s some data to suggest that women become less inhibited as they age, so it’s often a time of relaxation and being comfortable with who you are, and that often improves sexual functioning and sexual performance.
Experts will tell you that declining hormones could mean you’ll want it less, but that isn't necessarily so.
Desire, once squashed by birth control pills, could re-surge. And if desire is a problem supplementation can help. While long-term use of traditional hormone replacement therapies, which include estrogen and progesterone, are no longer recommended due to the heart and health risks, there are other options for safe and all natural menopause symptom relief.
Now’s the time to reap the real benefits of years of mortgage payments, carpooling and PTA meetings!
You can have sex anywhere you want in your paid-off home and you can do it in ridiculously pricey, alluring lingerie, if you want to. Older women tend to have more disposable income to spend on dinner dates and romantic getaways than they did in their younger years. You've worked hard; now’s the time to spend a little on your love life.
It’s true that the hormonal changes of menopause can lead to vaginal dryness. But this can be a good excuse to experiment and discover new, pleasurable experiences, courtesy of the lubricant aisle at your local drugstore.
Sure, you still may get stressed. Everyone does. But hopefully at this age, you won’t feel as stressed by your job as you did in your 20s, 30s, or 40s because you are more likely to have achieved your career goals.
One of the obstacles for a woman in menopause is to have a partner who can’t perform sexually. Whatever the problem—premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, or low hormones—there’s a treatment. Unresolved sexual problems can even have a silver lining. Menopausal woman usually have more mature partners, who, due to their own performance issues, are open to the use of sex toys, like vibrators for a more satisfying sexual experience.
Enjoy these years! They can be the very best!
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