Running Towards Happiness

3 years ago
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By Shaless Peoples


I’m not even going to attempt to explain away the truth here: It’s been a minute since I’ve laced up and hit the pavement. Like, a year minute. But on my birthday several weeks ago, I figured it was the perfect day to pick up an old habit. With a new year, comes a new commitment to exercise and health, right? This all sounded nice in my head the night before I woke up at 4:45 a.m. to get ready in time to meet my running group for 3 miles around the lake. Begrudgingly, I woke up, rose up, and laced up. But the important thing is that I showed up.


It was wonderful to see old faces, meet new people, breath in the crisp cold air, and warm up as I stared out onto the lake. It was entertaining to catch up with a friend as we started to sync our cadence. I can’t quite place the point of shift, but soon my whole “it’s too early for this sh$t” attitude dissipated. My negative morning attitude was somehow replaced with a jolt of energy, glee, and positivity. And I hadn’t even had my morning coffee yet! Running past the geese, and gingerly saying “hello” to passersby, I took stock of my love/hate relationship with running.


Throughout this past year, family and friends would ask me, “Are you still running?” or (my personal favorite), “Do you still keep in shape with running…oh, you don’t?...why not?” These questions always had me look suspiciously at my inquirer. The questions offended me because it seemed to imply that since I was no longer running, I was no longer fit and attractive. Responding to such inquiries with defiance, I’d stand on my soapbox and pontificate: “running has never been fun for me. I have always hated running. It doesn’t make me happy. And I refuse to spend my valuable time doing something that isn’t fun, doesn’t make me happy, and that I hate doing!!...”


However, after my birthday run, I needed to reassess my attitude and responses towards running. I considered all of the feelings I experienced during, and after running. Could I have been wrong in my negative responses to running? Is it possible that I find running (gulp) fun?


Fun can be defined as an act that brings about happiness. During my morning run, I realized that running is indeed fun for me, it actually gives me happiness. In The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin contends that, “…fun is (1) not draining, (2) is guilt-free, and (3) is energizing.” Going by this 3 point checklist, running is fun for me because:


Running is not draining (check…wait, what??)


Ok. This statement warrants major clarification. Yes, running drains me. The 30-35 minutes of non-stop, consistent cardio challenges me both physically and mentally. Oftentimes, I want to give up, and just opt for a nice walk or stroll, or better yet a nice sit-down. However, like stress, I think that there's a good kind of drain, and a bad kind of drain. For instance, drain that is bad is what we might feel within an unproductive relationship. A situation where you give your time, energy, emotions, and money, leaving you utterly depleted. And after all that you have invested into the relationship, you realize the relationship is unable to reinvest in you, leaving you void of the energy, support, and happiness you need. The result? You’re drained. Drained in a bad way.


On the other hand, the good kind of drain still requires you to invest. However, the difference is that whatever you are investing in is able to make good on your investment. Simply put, you get out of it, what you put into it. And oftentimes, the return is much more than what you put in. Though investing might’ve drained your resources initially, you come out a much better, happier, and healthier person. The result here: You’re drained, but drained in a good way. This is the kind of drain that I get from running.


Running has no guilt: (check)


Running improves my health and clarity of mind. It tightens areas that I just can't afford to have jiggle. When I run, I address the areas of health, relationships, and personal growth. F If running produces all these wonderful side effects for me, how can I feel any guilt at all?


Running is energizing (check)


There is a phase during running that I like to refer to as the “wind beneath my wings” phase. It’s that burst of energy I get out of nowhere that allows me to finish the course. Soon after completing my run, I experience the “runners high” phase, during which I am just a flurry of creative productivity at home, and at work. Running gives to me the energy I need to focus, and to engage with others and in the rest of my day.


A year ago, I remember looking over my FaceBook feed, and being presented with the fill-in-the blank prompt of “I run because...” To this prompt, I bluntly responded, “I run because I like to eat and look good, period.” Though my initial response still holds some truth to it, I've since amended my response to include the fact that I now run because it allows me to move towards, and grab tightly ahold of my happiness.




Photo: John@aus, Flickr



Shaless Peoples started running four years ago, and is currently a member of the Black Girls Run!-SF Bay Area Chapter. She lives in Oakland, CA with her son, where she enjoys writing, discovering indie cafés, shops and restaurants, and (now) running.

Shaless is also the creator of the Da Capo Careers Project, where she listens to, writes about, and shares the stories of 20, 30, and 40 somethings who have started their career paths from the beginning in order to experience a more passion-filled, meaningful, balanced, and happy work-life. To learn more about the project , visit

[1] To learn more about Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project, go to