Weight loss has been an open application in my brain since I can remember. The idea of losing 15-20 pounds has been constantly running in the background of my life through every phase I can remember including middle school, high school, college, vacations, family events, weddings, dating, and even girls night out on the town.
Although the thought of losing a few pounds was constantly running in my mind, no magic solution to the issue ever popped up. I did try diet pills, Weight Watchers, counting points, counting calories, cutting carbs, the Atkins diet, cheat days, no cheat days, all cardio, high protein, no sugar, no flour, taking Vitamin B, slimfast shakes, etc...Sometimes I tried one tactic at a time for a short span, other times I dabbled in multiple methods simultaneously.
Over time the results were minimal, short-lived and the script in my head just kept running. "I'd be happier if I lost 15-20 pounds but for some reason, my body won't allow it. Other girls are just born thin, I am destined to be 'thick.' This is just who I am - accept your fate."
Does this script sound familiar? I have a feeling I'm not the only female who has had these thoughts pervade their lives and their most intimate events. These thoughts have the ability to steal joy from otherwise glorious occasions. The good news is these thoughts are EXHAUSTING! They really do get old after awhile. Imagine listening to an old CD on repeat for somewhere around 10-15-20 years or more. After awhile, the thought of your own thoughts gets sickening! You get tired of being unsatisfied with yourself and become willing to stop that script from replaying.
I don't remember exactly when the shift happened, but I know for sure that it did. I remember slowly starting to think, "Enough is enough." I am tired of this script replaying through every event in my life. I am tired of saying no to events like swimming in a pool for fear of wearing a swimsuit or going to a club because I told myself I wasn't physically "ready" to do so.
One day I just had this thought, what if I just ACCEPTED me for me? What if just stopped wishing to be different and instead, just said, Ok world, Here I am.... AS IS. Over time, I started slowly replacing the old tapes in my head with this new mantra. I slowly starting thinking, this is what I have, this is who I am - either people accept me or they don't but I will ACCEPT myself. I will put my toes in the water... I will swim when I want to swim. I will not hold myself back from any activity or fun because I feel like I'm not "ready" for it.
I don't quite understand why or how the script in my head changed. There was no magical event or specific low point I can remember. I just know that I got tired of being tired. And this feeling of defeat lead me quiety into a place of acceptance and from there I was able to grow. I also know that sometimes when we don't understand how something happened - it is the most authentic and natural way for true and powerful change to occur.
In order to make progress in any area of our lives, we first need to ACCEPT things exactly as they are. So what does ACCEPTANCE mean?
For me, acceptance means no longer fighting with myself. Acceptance means surrendering and waving the white flag. It says, I give up this toxic mental battle that is only defeating me over and over again. I give up listening to the voices in my head that say I'm not good enough until Im thinner. I'm tired of this script. It's been playing the same rerun in my head for years and I'm sick of it! Hello world, this is me exactly as I am today. I don't want to waste another moment of my time wishing for something I am not.
For some, acceptance might feel "weak" because we mistakenly believe that we must fight, and persevere, and struggle toward our goals. If acceptance is weak, then, that is okay with me. In every weakness there is strength, and in every strength there is weakness. Defeat may look bad from one person's limited point of view, but on a broader scale, defeat is the door to change.
This world is full of people charging forward, banging away at dreams and goals driving themselves to breakdown from being overworked, over stressed, unhappy, and unsatisfied. And then there are those people who accept life on life's terms. I challenge you today, to accept life, to accept yourself today exactly as you are. .. To live and feel today as if you had everything you needed and see how that thought shapes your interactions. Try for a day to be gentle with yourself and be gentle with others.
Today I start the day with acceptance of my life, my body, my job, my relationships, exactly as they are and I don't struggle to change them. I do this without expectation of any particular results. I do this with an open heart and with a spirit of gratitude for having everything I need right in front of me.
Let me know how your day changes! Sending the miracle of acceptance out to everyone who reads.
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